Do You Really Want a Prince?

There is something to be said about the Disney princes. If you hadn't noticed they are total background music to the forefront of the Disney Princesses. Disney has capitalized massively on their precious princesses (who even I find endearing), but in truth, we never really learn who prince charming is. Does Prince Charming even have a real personality, which we can judge critically?He is a fictional myth, an image, an attractively drawn cartoon, a face, a fantasy we carry in our minds as paramount, but is it reality?
How great were the Disney princes?

 Consider prince Eric. Even though it was Ariel's voice, which sparked his attraction in the first place. He clearly is still guided by his penis, pursuing silent Ariel solely on her looks. Then he decided to marry plotting Ursula solely because she sounds like the "the voice." Isn't this all a little superficial? Why the rush? We are led to believe that Eric is a wonderful guy, but isn't he just a little bit vain and impulsive? Most men wouldn't be strung out because some chic just "sounded so amazing." Did he realize that she was actually a mermaid? Wouldn't he normally be a bit shell shocked and apprehensive about this? Oh yeah, it's Disney.

The Beast is obviously no better, turned ugly because of his naturally shallow, snobby, spoiled ways. Despite his sudden transformation he's a control freak and likely a women beater. Likely an alcoholic. Likely a Taurus like our dear EX-friend Chris Brown. You can sense that his ugly side is likely to return. He's no prince.

And neither is good looking Aladdin. He's a man of the sword. He's obviously a cheater/player type. Come on, you can see it. Aladdin and his dagger are one.Despite how he is illustrated, he rides a magic carpet for a living, does Jasmine really think he only has rug for her? Doubtful.

The most realistic of the Disney dudes is the wily Peter Pan. He is also a man of the sword (meaning he wants to fly from adventure to adventure and is drawn towards whatever his penis ignites), but is open about this. He isn't ready to grow up. In the revision "Hook", Roo-fiii-oooo retorts, "all grown ups are pirates." When Peter kisses Wendy's granddaughter and doesn't return to Neverland he sold out. Falling in love is not a part of the Peter Pan game. Every girl has dated a "Peter."
Every girl can think of a guy who was so attractive and intriguing in his own right, that every moment she spent with him felt like a fairytale. Like some kind of pixie dust magic. Until he was literally flying out her window or she flying out of his. It likely doesn't amount. Yes, in the updated version young Peter does settle for love -  a happy thought, which can make him fly through life (metaphorically if you will) - but it took him a long time to do this. Plus, there are still so many "lost boys" which Peter leaves behind, signifying that their will always be "lost boys."
A Wendy type is prone to mother, prone to be patience and prone to suffer disaster. She feels its her duty to guide the misguided and in turn she only sacrifices her own happiness. If you think about it, all the Disney Princesses are confined to the limitation of their male counterparts. Their own social status and career is meek, and they find a sense of identity, livelihood and royalty by being swooped off their feet by princes whom we have never truly seen engage with their love interests. Yes, Aladdin/Jasmine, Ariel/Eric etc. have built towards their climactic relationship, but even still the pursuit foreshadows the notion that this is not something you want. This is truly a fairy tale. Not to say that your own version of what a 'prince charming' entails doesn't exist, but I DO have to say that no young child should be hell bent on the caliber of "prince" addressed by Disney. What do the couples truly have in common besides the trivial notion that they esthetically look good together?

Peter Pan clearly had attractions with both Tinkerbell and Wendy, but I doubt this notion translates to a toddler. I think its important to know what were dealing with before we waste our time dwelling over potential flight risks. The Peter Pan is a good time, a youthful leisure (likely a Libra or Aquarius), and if you enjoy him for what he is you can have a lot of fun, but don't expect your going to be the girl he leaves Never Neverland for...he may decide never to leave. Never.

In tradition of my own passion, I would like to mention that a lot of men, especially rappers, make tribute to the essence of Peter Pan. He has become a legend. Lil' Wayne is often rhyming hooks like, "Peter Pan fly till I day", Rick Ross will drops lines like "like Peter Pan I'm gonna fly." The idea of being fly means you never have to stay in one place too long, not long even to invest emotions or get hurt. It also means enjoying life without the drama of emotions and consequence, which adults face. So if your ready to get on the flight of extreme turbulence and potential passion, go for it, but assure yourself that a parachute might be in order.

Opposites Attract

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=xweiQukBM_k&feature=av2e This Paula Abdul video was a childhood favorite, and sadly the cliche is often (but not always) quite true. Or at least according to the stars signs. People who are inherently different by nature are drawn to each other naturally because they crave to be challenged as humans. I often hear men say, "I'm attracted to what I am not." This notions often comes into play physically, but also mentally. For example, a highly introverted male might be attracted to a more personable, talkative, vivacious female because she provides stimulation, which he cannot. There is also a very strong chemical, physical chemistry between opposites, especially in the sack. He might consider himself the selfish, bad boy type and finds himself attracted to extremely feminine, girl-next-door, good girl types. The dominant are attracted to the submissive. Big Gorillas attracted to petite spinner types. Sometimes weak communicators are attracted to strong ones, and attentiion seeking nymphos settle with quite arm candy (who are also awesome listeners). Its all about balancing two elements so they can function properly support and together.

Sag/Gemini : First there is the BrAngie Pitt relationship, which is a combination of two polar opposites Sag (fire) and Gemini (air). He's a bit goofy, worldly, charming, up for adventure and on the hunt for both experience and excitement. She too is constantly changing (dual-natured Gemini) and trying to fill a void of never quite feeling good enough. She is still looking for something to complete her, she might preach humble talk, but she is never satisfied. She does have a vain side, it would be shocking for her not to, every Gem is prone to detail and highly visual (and usually material) by nature. Mentally they likely both have anal tenancies. They will face trouble with control because if she is a true Gemini a part of her will always want to take the lead. He struggles to be MAN. He is pathetically devoted and doesn't mind taking a back seat to her demands, though very stubborn in his own right, he might express frustration, but he doesn't wear the pants. I think that might be pretty obvious. 20 kids later and these two could still be together, the attraction between them is very strong and while different have many things in common. They fight though,but I think Brad was looking for a women to "talk back" to him a bit. Jen, sensitive by nature, and a lot more emotional would like comply too much.


Virgo/Pisces: This is intense. They are so different its sort of scary. He is likely the introverted, serious, critical type. She the light to his dark, super feminine and girly with a chatty spirit and a zest for fun. The sex will be epic, but she will always be too sensitive for him. She will always look for an emotional connection in bed, which he won't always provide. He wants her, but he doesn't want her to get too mushy, he will scare easily. He will likely make her feel insignificant and never god enough. Pisces needs her validation more than anything and Virgo is one of the last signs to put glitter glue on top of anything. They are much more likely to be the bully, to criticize, hate and talk lowly of people. This could stem from their own insecurity of thinking that he is the one and only, the very best man. Their male ego is very present because they secretly love the attention of you being devoted to him. They might have a weird complex about 'other men'. If they give you a compliment its sincere, but emotionally they don't operate on the same frequency as sensitive Pisces. This contrast will always lead to clashing. Pisces will always be seeking something, which Virgo can't provide. If he trusts her however, and lets his guard down to her, it can work. IF Virgo is willing to let down his wall and let Pisces in, these two could be happy, though Pisces needs to work on 'not giving a fuck' what Virgo says and does because he's a loner type, and they always need space and time to figure out their constantly changing mind sets. Nothing is often perfect in the eyes of the virgin boy (Virgo). In the case below Nicole is the Virgo and Joe is the Pisces.

Taurus/Scorpio: This is also intense. I feel you are starting to understand the polarity interactions are often of a very intense nature, which don't necessarily have true expiration dates. Taurus is the earth mother of the zodiac, they want control, and they want trust and passion. They want the best - food, wine, drink, sex. They want love in all its conventions, all its prosper and practicality. While Scorpio is often very into himself by nature and not always able to bicker to the same degree as Taurus (who is often very temperamental until set off). Scorpio relishes in solo time and solitude and can't always satisfy the sometimes demanding needs of the Taurus. Hospitable signs like Gemini and Pisces are better suited to give Taurus everything they desire, and more.  Taurus and Scorpio go in waves, meaning they do have strong moments of greatness, but they have their plateaus, and cycles of fighting. By nature these two will clash on many levels. The sexual connection is crazy because it involves the two nymphos of the zodiac coming together in bed and this can be hours on the bed.... Control is also a factor of argument because Taurus, while understanding (and always working on it) does like to have things her way, and Scorpio can often be so set in his ways/patterns that he doesn't comply to the needs of his partner. Scorpio and Taurus, however, are very loyal signs, and are capable of working together as a team to make compromises and in turn, make their love work. It was certainly a lot of work for these two:

Leo/Aquarius : These two actually can have a lot in common because both are powerful signs with a lot of potential for positive energy. Leo is the center, but Aquarius is fleeting and never quite in the same place. Leo and Aquarius can both exercise meanness, if they don't like you, they don't like you, but Leo is more likely to lie to your face and smile with killer kindness because they are so narcissistic they can't handle anyone hating them. They need to feel great and important by nature. They expect you to come to them because the Lion sees him/herself as royalty. A lot of pride. Aquarius is more likely to look you up and down and walk away. They don't care. They don't need to waste their time on negative people who provide them with nothing in life. Leo has a lot of passion, and loves to be in love, which is great, but Aquarius is often swayed into other flirtations and endeavors because the cubicle of being in a total monogamous relationship can feel like a choking neck tie to them. Leo and Aquarius are both intelligent signs, so if she possess an ability to mentally engage Mr. Aquarius, this could be a very meaningful match with a lot of heat.


Cancer/Capricorn: Cancer is willing to give Capricorn the sense of protection and security, which Capricorn craves. However, Capricorn can often be "too dull" for Cancer, who might crave humor and stimulation more than Capricorn. Capricorn likes order, structure and stability. Cancer longs for security as well, but doesn't want to sacrifice doing, living and being apart of real life. Cancer does not want her relationship to be her entire identity, so if Capricorn smothers, and prevents Cancer from retaining a sense of self pleasure they could run into problems. They both do both have the ability to build a strong sense of home, comfort and loyalty. As long as they are capable of satisfying each others mental and physical needs this could work out, but it also could not like in the Case of Capricorn Kid Rock and Cancer Pamela Anderson.

Aries/Libra : Aries pretty much always know what she wants. She is the boss. She doesn't like to wait. She expects to be front of the line. As the first sign in the zodiac it is nature for Aries to think about themselves before anyone else. Libra is much more shifting in his reasoning, he weights the scales before making any type of decision. Committing to a decision is like contemplating abortion for a Libra - they just never really know what they want. Aries will try to make up Libra's mind, foolishly of course, because no one is capable of doing this for Libra. Aries needs to learn the gift of empathy, and work with her partner to communicate together. Aries will have to step back from the control role and try to be the sympathizer, lover and care taker. Libra will be very affectionate and adoring to Aries, which the Ram loves, but in order for it to truly work, Aries will have to reach a hand out to Libra first. Boni and Clyde were a Aries/Libra match.

ALSO any one who is in your OWN star sign could be your polarity. Similar personalities tend to clash by nature because there is a lack of balance between the elements. Too much of the same things is never good and can be a catalyst for chaos. For example, two Taurus women might be too stubborn and bump heads with one another. Two Leos might fight for the lime light, Two Pisces might be too sensitive for each other and hurt each others feelings indirectly. This being said, people also looooove their own star signs. If you have friends born in the same month as you, there is a reason. Birds of the same feather do flock together, similar interests and common ground are often favored in trade of the struggle to get along with your opposite. Regardless, we all need both relation and opposition in order to sustain a good livelihood or a healthy relationship. 

If Looks could Kill

Pretty sure you are familiar with the rowdy group of people posing in this picture, yes, the cast of Jersey Shore. This show, while hated on by some (or loved because its hated) is actually funny. It has shed new light on the term 'player' (just because you play doesn't mean you have the best looking toys) and the type of mistakes guys will make when horny i.e. going home with an ugly girl, which is coined on the show as a GRENADE. Some sip the haterade but on the shore, the boys sip the grenaderade, meaning they get so wasted they can't see straight and kiss on anything.

Grenade, according to Urbandictionary.com :

The solitary ugly girl always found with a group of hotties. If the grenade doesn't get any action, then neither does anyone else. "Come on man, take one for the team and jump the grenade" I find this hilarious but also a contradiction of the term BOMB, which is often used to describe the girl you consider to be 10/10 or "dude the DJ played ALL BOMBS last night" aka stuff people like. Killer jams. Mind you, the word "bomb" can be used either way.  "I totally bombed that test." Still, I find it to be a bit contradictory. Words are not always meant to be take literally, but in this case the play on words (bombs and grenades are essentially the same thing) do contradict each other. Perhaps different bombs do different things, just as women might all be the same sex, but come in different packages with different means of explosion.  Personally ladies, if you consider yourself to have something explosive (in a positive way) to offer I would suggest staying away from the players. The sooner they learn there are only Grenades left to 'fuck and chuck' the sooner they start to grow up. Possibly. Some boys are a part of the Peter Pan foreva complex. If you're a gem, don't act like a grenade. You make them work for it and you'll be surprised to see how they will do just that. As Steve Harvey says, "set that bar high and do not lower it...women are constantly lowering their bar for men, making it way too easy for them to jump right over." Steve Harvery also say 90 dates before sex, well, i don't necessarily believe that. Don't use your vagina as man trap. Don't manipulate a man into a relationship via sex because it can end as soon as you do, no matter how long you waited prior to fornication. My rule: when there is chemistry there is chemistry. When its right there are no rules, no matter how slow or fast you move, the rules go out the window when two people are truly into each other. Trust me, you'll just know, and it won't require obsessing about the pros and cons with your girlfriends. GEMS - girls who are obviously attractive by nature, but also know what they want, and never settle for less. A true sparkle never puts up with shit.

The Lovers, The Dreamers, The Players

Certain signs express themselves differently because they undergo different emotional frequencies and encompass different elements. For example signs like Scorpion, Taurus and Virgo are more likely to show love then to verbally express love through words. These signs keep it real. Don't get me wrong, when these signs want something i.e. access into your pants, you will see their charm come out. Likely this charm is induced by booze, which gives them the courage to try in the first place, but in truth they develop feelings  rather slowly. Taurus is more likely to do your laundry, or drop off something you forgot at home (to work) in order to show the lengths which they will concretely go for love.

Signs like Pisces and Cancers are more emotional and fleeting in their pursuits. They are born with the fear of ending up alone and therefore are a lot likely to feel inferior to their partners. For example, Pisces is the sign to compliment and express emotions, but also the most likely to put their selves down in the process. As we just noted Rhianna is a Pisces, despite her strong emotional convictions she is likely to self-destruct and stay in something out of the fear that she can't be alone. She also lacks the belief that she could find better.  

Scorpio is just as emotional but wily and works to disguise his possessive and jealousy nature. This nature, however is not easily hidden. Scorpio needs to be at perfect trust with both himself and his partner in order to make things work. Scorpio desires control and will fight for it within in a relationship if there is too little of it. Scorpios are also more like to express love physically or through gesture than to send a sappy love note. 

Aquarius is the ultimate player of the zodiac and has lines to make panties drop till Thursday, however they struggle to both commit and find their true feelings amongst all the surfaced, friendly chaos. If they do make a commitment however, it does means something significant - or they are they Justin Timberlake type, meaning they "back up". Date a hot celebrity for a while but have their next "future bitch" on the back burner because these types of water carriers feel more secure with a leading lady in the picture and are rarely alone. Whether or not Timberlake is faithful is another story - I've heard things....things which could very well be true. Doesn't really matter, he has the charm to make his partner feel like the only goddess of his eyes. Despite his grand words, his actions and flirtations with other women will still be apparent.Whether it be msn, fb, or at the clubs - he is likely interacting with other women, naturally.

 

Capricorn is the loyal sign of the zodiac. If they are involved with you, its likely boring, meaning there is no drama or need for question.  They express themselves through good, earthy, "normal" love making. If they cheat, its surprising, but likely an indication of there birth chart, and not solely because they are Capricorns. Capricorns crave the long term relationship and the stability that comes with it. They like Taurus are most likely to be involved long term. Taurus has the least likely divorce rate in the zodiac, they too, like knowing there is someone they can trust and come home to.

Leo has the potential to be a great lover, he'll both say sweet things and do anything he can to minimize your personal stress. He's the hero. He loves to be in love, so when and if he is, its likely for his own personal reasoning, but be careful not to step on his ego or take away too much from his limelight. 

Gemini is the love bug of the zodiac, flirting up a storm and always up for play. Dual natured Gemini doesn't know how to deal with this attractions because he is attracted to so many things. Even she (Gem girl) is a total flirt. They are a flirting sign by nature that is very capable of playing the field if desired. Also, very capable of having a lot of loves under their belt, loves that don't always disappear but pop back up every now and then. They express themselves both through flirtation (gems need a mental connection) but also through physicality. They are very affectionate and cuddly people when they want to be. They also, will go to great lengths to please because Gemini doesn't like to be of bad service.

Aries, the RAM, keeps their heart protected under glass, but they crave sexual relationships by nature. They crave attention even if they don't know how to deal with the emotional back-lash. They will always protect their own heart first, so prepare to come second to his first agenda, which is him. Needy girls - look elsewhere- he does not want to see you everyday.

Sagittarius is the hunter, the archer, he's got the gift of the gab to get what he wants, but its his inherent level of competitiveness which drives him to win you over. He must have you and this pursuit could come off as over-bearing and transparent. Some people play games well, others simply make it apparent that they merely playing...playing to lose - the game should never be transparent. You're no sucker so don't set yourself up for lose.

Lastly, Libra male is least likely to know what he wants. He can't make a decision to save his life, but he knows that he wants to try more than a few items on the menu before he finds something to stick with.Regardless, he might find himself placing you on the scale in his mind to see if you add up. Even if you are involved with him, he is likely still weighing you a little bit.

Chris Brown VS. Rhi Rhi (Bull Vs. Fish)

 

Despite the obvious media knowledge regarding Brown's physical attack, have you ever wondered why these two love birds didn't quite make it work, but still struggled to leave each other alone? Do you ever wonder why they each found it so hard to quit each other? Astrologically, they are soul sign mates, approximately 80% compatible. This means the two will have a strong level of chemistry, which goes beyond the sheets. They will be drawn to each other naturally, and attracted upon instance. Taurus provides a certain level of comfort and protection, which moody, and unpredictable Pisces needs. Symbolically Chris is The Bull, and Rhianna is The Fish: he is strong and forceful, while she is wimpy, emotional and flaky. It is no surprise that the boiling, jealous nature of the Taurus sign drove Chris to violence. For the most part, Taurus is very temperamental. They retain a certain sense of cool about them (*ruling the throat is no surprise that Brown has those melt worthy pipes*) but if you push them - watch out. Trust is something a Taurus highly values. They are like vaults, sharing with no one the truth of what they feel. If they do let you in it is a sheer sign that they trust you, and care enough for you to let you into their private, inner worlds. The Pisces Fish plays into this desire perfectly by being both the ideal sympathizer, nurture and care taker, she is all heart, and able to address his wounds with just the right sentiment of beauty, sensuality and dedication. It is her loving, Pisces nature, which enables her to forgive Chris for anything. She has said wonderful things about him after the incident, and she means them. She will always care for Chris because Pisces doesn't know how to hold a grudge when they love you. 

Taurus is much like a Bull in china shop when pushed. You never want to push a Taurus - they take their time to get over things. Despite what you think, or how little they tell you how much you annoy them, they are in control here. You know they are too, and weak Pisces enjoys taking a back seat to this kind of control. Pisces is a highly complimentary sign and therefore temper tantrum Brown can take the reigns upon his weak Fish lover. He's 'a top', but I'm pretty sure that's already become apparent to you. 

Taurus is extremely stubborn and expresses a lot of pride, if you bruise it, you should beware. They are not the long-winded mushy gushy types. They are prone to keeping it real. They are not the type to revert into a overtly fake persona - they'll keep it short and sweet. Pisces on the other hand, likes to please, and will find something likeable in anyone if only because they long to be liked back. Very prone to forgiveness, Pisces is the most likely sign to inflict self-blame when things go wrong in their life, and therefore Rhianna will not only take piety on Chris Brown, but she will also put blame on herself. Pisces are very addictive by nature, and Taurus knows what he wants (possessive of what is his/a very material sign and this comes into play with their relationships big time) so it becomes hard for Pisces to swim away. She doesn't necessarily pay mind to being objectified, and this pleases territorial Taurus.  Pisces is "too nice" and ends up becoming a victim to her own love because she doesn't take time to love herself enough. Easily persuaded Pisces however, will eventually come to her senses if lucky, it sure seems that Rhianna did. Though many say, She was still into it, long after it ended. Perhaps, love doesn't forget, it simply moves on. 

This post is NOT in any shape or form making excuses for Chris's actions via astrology. It is simply noting that his apparent "rage" is supported by the star. There is clearly a lot more to his dysfunction that astrology/astrological interpretation cannot explain.

He's the man of complete mystery. Even if you think you know him, you will never really know him. So much is going on inside his head, he is the THINKER, his brain is active and his intellect high, but he doesn't trust anyone, not enough to tell them what he's really thinking. He's a sexy bastard. Yes, a very sexy bastard. One who makes you want to tear off all your clothing and lose complete inhibition towards. The type of guy who could simply brush against you and make you tingle all over. He's a sexual creature himself, in fact, he defines himself through his ACTIONS and expresses his self and very being through sex. Scorpio male is much better at showing love then speaking love. He would rather send you to orgasm heaven or simply throw his arm around you in protection and admiration than say, "baby, I just love you so much, I am so lucky!" Scorpio is very in touch with the emotions and psyche of others, if he gets a certain vibe or a negative feel he simply will not engage. He needs to feel comfortable. He does care, and if pushed will show a devilish side, which usually stems from his desire to protect what he feels is HIS. Jealousy in this sign runs hiiiiigh. On the flip, all water signs have natural empathy. Scorpio definitely has the ability to step up to the plate in a crisis or support emotions if he's in the position to. Basically, "when he's good he's really good, when he's bad, he's really".

• He's a phallic by nature - honestly - Scorpio rules the GROAN, sex is an emotional and physical expression. Meaning they are more likely to experience emotional impotency or sexual dysfunctions in general. They associate both emotion and physical attraction to their penis.
• He's likely got an arty factor to him in some aspects - or at least the potential for it, also potential for a tattoo fetish, which is often found in the hardcore rebel Scorpions. 
• He's introverted by nature - few exceptions occur in this area - he's present but his voice isn't the loudest, you might forget he's there, but he's listening, and taking it all in, so don't play him for a fool. When drunk he might show a different side.
• A smile or a laugh is often a huge indication that the Scorpio is trying to relate to you, but don't expect a long winded chatty vocation from him or a love letter. You can force him to write you one but it will probably be really short, something like, "hey, I'm writing you a letter like you asked me, I really love you." Yeah, better not waste any paper on that - spare the trees. 
• He will never tell you everything he is thinking - secretive by nature the Scorpio will always keep things to himself. In turn they make great listeners because they would rather support your trouble then trust someone with their own.
• if they do confide in your or seek you for condolence this means they do trust you - likewise with a romantic relationship - trust is the most importance factor and the greatest downfall. Either you will have a sense of solid trust or Scorpio will never trust you and jealousy will prevail. 
• Keep in mind there is a huge difference between the male and female Scorpio. She is likely a lot more bubbly and people orientated - possibly more of a control freak too, but Scorpio is resilient as fuck, they will never do anything, which they don't want to do and no one can ever make them. 
• Scorpios love sex and can be a cheating sign, a perfect example would be :
  
  
  
  
  
• Scorpio man loves beautiful things and is taken by women, he will be tempted or he will be a flirt, but most likely he will just LOOK and from this look you'll be able to know exactly what he's thinking. Scorpio is a tell-all tale through his eyes, and he is always watching...if your with him, no matter where you are in the room, trust me, he knows where. 

Love patterns and Circles

Are you Even Ready??

 

 We might often feel that we are "ready for love" like India Arie (http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=mxkMlS2nuU8) however, this is often NOT the case. The girl who can't seem to be happy without a guy in the picture (aka she ALWAYS has one on the go) doesn't truly know what she wants. She only knows she can't be alone or 'happy' alone. I don't advise women to treat love like a career because it's not natural, but many do. A sense of desperation and a need to rush into love can only result in failure. Mind you, there is always an exception to every rule or assumption. I am a firm believer in fate, but i don't think you can steer the course of your own love boat. Love does find you, but you have to be open to it and you have to be patient. First you have to accept that you DO deserve it and secondly, you have to acknowledge your own personal love pattern so you can learn from your past love mistakes. How do you achieve this?

I have discovered two simple exercises, which will benefit you greatly if you are able to notice the signs.  This can be a fun solo, retrospective activity or done with a bunch of girlfriends over drinks. First, make a list of all the significant people, which you have dated. If it was me I would include birthdays to note the astrological pattern, but I understand most people don't pay attention to this component or remember birthdays. The people you pick don't all have to be boyfriends/girlfriends. Make a list of all the positive things you like/liked about them (stemming for an emotional, physical, spiritual, financial and intellectual perspective). If you base the qualities on these five categories you will also be able to perceive what's most important to you in a relationship, you may be surprised. On the flip of this do the exact same thing but for the negative traits. After you've done this for all of them, take a look at the patterns, what did you discover? After reviewing, make a list of  five qualities, which will become your DEAL BREAKERS and this means you will NOT be willing to compromise on these things. For example, "must have job".  I"m sure most of you are familiar with The Millionaire Matchmaker Patti Stanger who is responsible for these exercises. Her book is actually an interesting, yet quick/easy, easy read, which contains the dynamics of these exercises in detail :  

 In simulation to Stanger's exercise, I learned something useful from a spiritual leader/fortune teller. It is called a "Love Circle" and this how it works :

• Make a perfect circle on a piece of paper
• Write LOVE at the top, underline in
• Inside the circle write ONLY the things you want in a relationship, i.e. "emotional security"
• This does not include things like "big dick" or "nice teeth", it only includes the qualities and emotions, which you've learned you need to have 
• Then (this part is a bit cheese) you are suppose to "breath in" the circle, study it, and become spiritual towards want you want in believing that it will come true (*remember you can't have everything so really only write the things you cannot compromise on*)
• Remember your beliefs do shape your experiences so believing it will come true one day is key
• Saying stuff like, "I'm going to end up alone". will only perpetuate negative love cycles 
• If your circle needs to change for any reason you are suppose to destroy the last circle, the spiritual leader suggests burning it. It needs to be 100% gone in order for the new circle to circulate. 

This might sound a bit "hocus pocus" for some but the activity is actually quite effective because it allows you to see not only what you want, but encourages you to believe in it, which is half the battle.Sometimes you just need the truth in writing, starting at you within the confines of a perfect circle to remind you : NEVER SETTLE.

DON'T DATE HIM

We've all been there. Stuck in a situation, which we know won't end greatly yet we entertain it anyway. When a guy openly tells you he is not looking for emotional commitment (translation = "I am not looking for a monogamous relationship") it sincerely means that he is NOT looking for emotional commitment. This does not mean however that this guy will not be trying to get into your pants OR make you feel like his girlfriend in certain aspects. This does not mean that this guy will not booty call you. This does not mean that there won't be mixed signals flying everywhere.You'll start to take note of all the things he does which support your case for chemistry. You'll Focus on all things that might indicate that you are 'special', that this is something - you're not just another ho-ho.  As a woman you can't help but over analyze all the details in your mind. Even if you play it off cool to your girlfriends (talking about it to them on the sly), you know it enters the currents of your brains and swims a lap or two....or three...

The more you hook up with him (that dark, dark horse) the more entangled you get, and when he suddenly reverts into complete svelte-I've fucked off-for-new-female-fun-mode you feel completely dumbfounded, but you can't officially blame him because he's covered all his tracks from the get-go. Guys nowadays think honesty is their meal time to being a player. They think if they directly tell you, "hey I'm a slut" or "I don't want a girlfriend" that you have no liability to be upset that you fell for their pantie trap. Yes, the pantie trap does exist, its that faux, "aren't I so great and perfect, and ohh aren't you too" pre-sex moment, but its completely false. Before anything sexual happens you might find this guy making comments like "oh well when we go we'll have to make sure we get a good seat." He will paint the image of a future in your eyes in order to get what he wants and earn your trust and comfort. Heard it once, heard it twice, men truly do love the chase - the quest is a drug in itself. Knowing they can have something isn't as appealing as the survival of the fittest 'hunt for the kill'. Men need to have an action, something to work for which makes them crave the unobtainable. Making yourself available by letting them know you want them (green light girl *girl who always has a GO light for her guy -  she will drop her agenda - for his) only makes it that much easier for him/anyone to take advantage of you and leave you out in the dust, in your stilettos and sticky smudges of last nights juicy tube :(

Being a player is not an easy thing to do successfully without drama because let's face it jealousy and alcohol go together like babies and pacifiers.Also, we're all indirectly connected by less than six separations within our own metropolis so mayhem is naturally likely to strike.

You can try to order everything on the menu, but eventually you will have an allergic reaction. Food will start to taste yucky.  You WILL get sick. They do get sick. 35? Older?! Who knows (by "sick" I mean, they eventually DO settle for ONE entree, but it might take them a decade longer than the average women to reach this plateau.)

Men find it hard NOT to appreciate the beautiful creatures of women that prowl the earth and they have no qualms about letting you know. Its pretty easy to tell - OH HEY you're attracted to me. They will be so forward to compliment you, especially when they are committed and here is why: a man is more likely to compliment you when you are single and he is NOT because he knows he has nothing to lose, he can say whatever, he can talk you up and down, mentally flirt with you, whatever, but its all harmless. There is no price to pay. Whereas a single man, playing the game would never come forthright and tell you you're the most amazing girl at the party with eyes like Jolie. Every word off his tongue is strategic and building - if his purist is genuine he won't put it ALL out on the table. Basically, even if he thinks you look better than Cindy Crawford circa 1999 in a white bathing suit, he still won't let you know right away. Never reveal all your cards too soon too quickly - this is a mistake for only a silly green light girtl o make ;)


                                           *Things To Consider*

• If you run to a red flag (its so hot you can't resist it but it preludes to trouble) expect a FIRE
• Every girl wants emotional commitment (even if they don't admit it) 
• Don't settle for simply "male attention", validation etc. Set the bar high and demand more right off the bat.
• Patience is key - there are a lot of losers out there so sift through them. Wouldn't you rather wait for the right one? ( And it doesn't matter if all your friends are coupled up, he's coming when he's suppose to come, not upon your desire, love is the one thing you can't control)
• Focus on what you CAN control, i.e. how can I make myself so amazingly happy that no man can ever strip me of that ?
• You truly won't meet a good match if your not happy on your own first - men don't solve problems - men are not Prozac - men are not crutches.
• Think about the people you know who say they had/have shitty fathers, DOESN'T THAT TELL YOU SOMETHING ABOUT MEN? There are, in my humble opinion, a few good men, you should never settle for "just OK", your guy will come.
• Remember Time is everything, no matter how sick you get of hearing it- it couldn't be more true. Anything is possible. Change in infinite.

Astrologically, the dark horse is a variable sign, which will either take you on the joy ride of your life or a ride you wish you never got on. Regardless there will be a high level of significant,  frequent interaction between you and your dark horses. Friction of either the positive or negative nature will occur, but regardless of how good it get or how bad it can feel there will likely be a lot of variety, some obstacles and complications. The dark horse will get into your inner, emotional shell.The interactions between you and your dark horse mates will be significant, but caution is to be warned, always better safe than sorry because you might not always have the best time, however, some are prone to walking on the wild side. It is as Ms. Bradshaw proclaimed "maybe [we're] supposed to run wild until [we] find someone -- just as wild to run with." There are the proclaimed "Katie girls" of the world, just as their are the simple girls (wall paper, dry toast, arm candy...you get it!) a. Regardless if a Natasha a Carrie or someone in between, a firm believer that there is a perfect match out there for anyone who wants it especially for those who exude the positive energy required to guide love in.

Dark Horses 

Aries - Pisces, Scorpio
Taurus -  Libra
Gemini - Capricorn, Sagittarius
Cancer - Virgo
Leo - Aquarius, Cancer
Virgos - Scorpios, Pisces
Libra - Virgo, Pisces, Taurus
Scorpio - Aquarius
Sagittarius - Gemini, Scorpio
Capricorn - Capricorn
Aquarius - Pisces, Scorpio
Pisces - Leo, Virgo, Libra

The Elements

If interested in the ways of astrology, one might start to look directly at the elements, which they surround themselves within their daily lives. Certain signs, for example, represent different elements, which can patchwork the dominant, reoccurring elements in our live, which we are in need of, lacking of or have too much of.

Earth

Fire

Water

Air

Automatically you can attribute personal attributes to these 4 different types of elements.

For example:

Earth – grounded, loyal, strong minded, domesticated, dependable...

Fire: intense, dramatic, colorful, unpredictable, fierce, tenacious...

Water: temperate at times – moody at others, emotional, vital, the necessity – *every one needs water, and likely everyone has a water mate in their small circles

Air : thoughtful, independent, a Constance source of fleeting ideas, duality and indecision

A better way for you to understand the elements (from a female view) is to take into account the ladies from Sex and The City. Each of the leading ladies represents a different element, and each of their personalities are a true testament to that given element.  

Carrie - Air

 Sam - Fire

Charlotte - Water

Miranda - Earth 

If your star sign is either an Aquarius, a Gemini or a Libra you would fall under the same air element as Carrie. If you've found yourself saying, "I'm a Carrie girl!" Perhaps this could be because you share the same element as her or have a lot of the air element within your birth cart. Air types are very inquisitive, with a natural ability to communicate either though artistic expression or verbal/written word. They have a natural inclination to detach emotionally, moving towards life adventures and away from dwelling despair. They are capable of commitment, however, they don't form true, strong, emotional attachments easily. They are capable but simply not decisive enough in their personal desires, and also shifty at that. Meaning they have the ability to move around a lot and are prone to change. Both Gems and Libras struggle because they are attracted to so many things, making it hard for them to settle with one type of life. Carrie followed in the pattern of the Aquarius, a curse I call the Jen Aniston Curse (yes, she is an Aquarius) this results in a lot of male suitors that don't quite take over the Aquarius's natural ability to pull away. Carrie allowed one man to really get into her heart and affect her emotional longevity. It took her a lot long than the average girl to fall in love or get married to the right man. I predict the same for Miss. Aniston. 

If your star sign is a Leo, an Aries or a Sag you fall under the same fire element as Samantha! Fire is full of energy, fun and adventure. They crave attention and excitement. They need to be appeased on a mental level, meaning specifically that they need to be stimulated by their partners in order to stay involved. Like Samantha, once her relationship with Smith reached a level of mundane, she needed a change of pace. Fire craves excitement! These signs will operate for the "I", they will do what is best for them and remain true to the self motive that "if you can't please yourself, what's the point to living?" They are very powerful creatures who are usually are very independent, hard working women who have strong careers of their own. They prefer to be at the front of the line not waiting in the back of the line at a local night club. In being about the self, fire signs feel the need to have endeavors of their own because their own success is equally as important to them as their partners - if not more so.

If your star sign is a Cancer, Scorpio or Pisces you fall under the element of water like Charlotte. You are the emotional friend of the group who likely is easiest to talk to, but also most likely to cry or pine over something precious. Mind you Char is quite conservative in her personal ways, so her judgments towards immortality are sometimes harsh. If she wouldn't do something herself she can't condone or support someone else doing it. She often will also take the actions of her friends personally and equate them to her own personal "princess" vendettas. Water, in contrast to Char is usually a very open minded element, willing to listen, empathize or lend a shoulder to any kind of trouble. Char does however demonstrate this heart, and rings most true to wanting to obtain the fairytale, Cinderella story, which every young girl dreams of. While Carrie expresses cynicism towards the Cinderella story, telling young Lilly, "you know its just a story right?"Charlotte, on the other hand, would never question the mystical world of fictional love. Like most water signs she is a dreamer, and truly wants to believe in love no matter how hard things get. Water is the most compliant sign, with the exception of Scorpio who has the ability to pull the reigns of control. This means that water signs usually are more likely to take on the role as provider/matriarch because they are so naturally caring, patient and considerate of others. Water has to work towards keeping themselves above water, and not allowing themselves to get pulled under current by there excessive need to help/consider others.

If your star sign is a Virgo, a Taurus or a Capricorn you fall under the same earth element as Miranda! Earth signs always see reality, which serves as their greatest gift and their greatest downfall. For example, Miranda's witty ability to think critically alludes her to believe that love is not possible and that all men, including the kindhearted Steve Brady, are considered toxic. She almost allowed her grounded (sometimes negative) nature prevent her from meeting "the one". Earth signs, by far are the most capable of long term commitment because they crave dependability, stability and loyalty. They crave domestic comforts and the idea that someone is waiting at home, however, they are more likely to have large periods of loner-dome in between partners. They fall long and hard, and therefore take more time to get past emotional wreckage. Regardless, they are very level headed individuals with a lot of good common sense, an element desired in any circle!

Virgo VS Leo

 *A special happy birthday mention for a very special Leo friend who is 27 today. A true Leo by heart she demonstrates great courage, intellect, vibrancy, and convicted feeling. She stays true to the Lioness ways of paving her own platinum boardwalk and waltzing down in a fabulous strut. Unafraid to share herself with the world, this Lion, has a very original roar that others can't help but listen to in awe! Happy Birthday Pea - I dedicate today's blog post to youuu and your unique sound*


To clarify from yesterday's post, Virgo is NOT a bad sign, in fact it is one of my personal favorites. Here is a picture of my favorite celebrity Vrgo male:

Nastradamus aka Nas aka "nasty" aka half man half amazing, often reps astrological signs/his own sign (Virgo is "I" first - remember this ) within his poetic lyrics. He even has a song called "Virgo" :http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=7II0gLp7ulg
In understanding the Virgo sign I am able to depict cautionary traits, which have struck me sorely. Regardless, they are of the most real creatures of this earth. Even if they act bad, tough, rude or mean, they are secretly soft and admirable inside. Behind the front of any Virgo is a strong moral man who is capable of providing generously for his love. Keep in mind Virgo is, at time, as indecisive as a Libra, who is red one day and blue the other. Virgo may leash total haste for you on Monday and then total love for you come Friday - he is prone to changing his mind because he is often very unsure of what it is that he wants. Practically. *Cough he might play it like he's macho but cough he's a baby of emotions*

Usually, Virgo is opposite to the dramatic demeanor of fireflies like Aries and Leo, which is why Virgo is often attracted to a quirky, spunky girl with a lot of intelligence or humor. Virgo, doesn't show off his intelligence to the manner, which these two signs do (especially ramming Aries who argues out of sheer competition and fear of being wrong..agree with me!!!), but he appreciates a woman who can read his mind and at times, be the voice box.  While Virgo is the master of HOW DOES THIS WORK, learning how things function, and how to WORK things mechanically. A Virgo man is far more likely than other signs to figure out how the vagina works because he truly cares about the pleasure of women, and he must work to please, otherwise he feels like he has failed. He gets pleasure out of knowing that HE CAN make his women excited on his own accord.
A lot of Virgo males are highly introverted and express themselves in concrete to-the-point vocations. Clearly, they are different once you give them a bottle of whiskey.
You might be shocked that Virgos are attracted to the flamboyant types, but more than other signs, they are simply, attracted to what they are not.  They crave intrigue to their sometimes cerebral lives. What is desired most is a "good women", meaning that Virgo (so prone to detail) must be able to acknowledge this inherent goodness. Virgo needs his woman to be highly feminine, a caregiver and maternal vision.  He is attracted to the girly notions he has to suppress. He is attracted to the curves, which are so different than his own.
The lion and the virgin can serve to be a great pairing, especially if Virgo flexes his mighty masculine muscles, however Leo may tire at times, looking for something more, wanting stronger vocations of love and lust and want. At the same time, Leo, used to getting what she wants in the jungle, enjoys the coy challenge of breaking down a Virgo. His heart is buried beneath black stone and hers is beaming, glowing, radiating on the sleeve of every shirt she ever bought for half off or whole price. She is used to men throwing themselves at her weakly in love, saying things too quick, too soon, too strongly. She is capable of seeing that the Virgo is a REAL man who pragmatic in his quests, however, she may tire if he reduces her to boring. The lion still needs to prance about, feel the floor and relish in a sense of secret power, which exists between herself and her environment. Mind you, she does not want an over shadow, or a lover who tries to compete with her greatness. She will response well to a humble demeanor, but there has to be moments of adoration. Virgo needs the mental connection and Leo needs the mirror of self love, meaning, that when she looks at you, she needs to see, painted on your face, just how much you adore her.

Jen is the best example of a Lioness who finally found her home in the arms of a Virgo. So he's a bit of a muskrat...but his love for her is REAL. Unlike past lovers who admired her for her physical aspects, Marc was willing to provide her with the earthy glories of family and home. Two things the Virgo is perfect at. A very domestic sign with the ability to build a family....it just took the Lion a few times around the block to realize where she'd be most appreciated for the long haul. Mind you, Marc is probably a lot more attention paying and adoring than most Virgos.....its a mutable maze, you just have to pick wisely ;)

The Virgo.

                                                           August 23 - September 23
                                                       
The Virgo is also known as the virgin, but don't be confused by the holy symbol. Beneath the outskirts of every astrological symbol lies a dark, buried truth because let's face - no one is completely good by nature. Consider that Virgo is a mutable sign, meaning there is plenty of room for variety, however, you might be able to patch together a few of your friends who fall under this sign and notice some uncanny qualities.

In Direct Focus on the Virgo Male :

•  He will demand a certain level of control within the relationship (whether this relationship be serious or mainly sexual)
• His first and formal loyalty is to himself, meaning that you can never benefit from a Virgo if he does not feel benefited i.e. not in a good mood, well fed, or had enough sleep
• Sleep is very important to this sign as it goes hand in hand with mood. If the Virgo is well rested he is more incline to play nice, or better yet play with you.
• The Virgo likes to stay up late - some may suffer from irregular sleeping patterns or insomnia 
• if the Virgo is tired expect a wrath of bitch mode, mean comments, low patients, and a level of introverted mind fuck for the whole family...you might start to make jokes that "he"s just on his period!"
• There is also a strong connection to the matriarch (aka he's a momma's boy) because Virgo needs the maternal comforts, which only a woman could provide -unlike any other sign they have a natural femininity to them,  which they reject (also a very homophobic sign to exert masculinity which they lack, but only in certain aspect - they are ALL MAN in many other areas) but can't help being drawn to all things 'fem'. They crave a good breast feeding and often don't feel they "need" a woman especially if they have a giving mother type provider. Virgo is the only woman symbol in this zodiac and this is with reason.
• a misogynistic aspect in that they support old fashioned gendered roles - the idea that women belong in the kitchen to serve is never a battle but a blessing to the hungry virgin boy
• Emotional commitments don't happen often because the Virgin in so reclusive in his own lonely world of self involvement, but when they do, they are hard to break, and the heartaches hard to overcome.
• The Virgo needs alone time for the self in order to revamp and appreciate others again  -- being critical or challenging often proves more favourable than smothering romantic sap and compliments.
• Virgo has a strong sense of order, duty and control - they always know what their moral act is though they do not always take it 
• This is why Virgo is the Judge and the first to correct you when wrong, even if its poor grammar, the Virgo will be on you like the police. If you thought you were dating a cop, or a private detective...you likely are.  This is the sign that solved the murder mystery. 

Be careful ladies - if you are the type who falls for guys who never quite add up or leave you walking in circles seeking validation, you might become hooked. Virgo is not the type to butter you up, but when he does sincerely compliment you, the joy of that one phrase will satisfy you enough to keep playing...just keep in mind the flip side of that is waiting in the woods, and it will strike again. Virgo's are by far the most critical sign in the zodiac and you will never meet perfection, though you might settle for coming just close enough.


IF your mate falls into any of these patterns, ask yourself what it is you really want from a man and then asks yourself why you've chosen to stay in a relationship  that is so far from your "dream". Perhaps you are not ready yourself and looking for love in the wrong places intentionally knowing you wouldn't be able to handle the real thing.

You can't however grow in the arms of the enemy.