Tuesday, May 17, 2011

Get in With Who You Fit In: "Are We Compatible?"

Are we compatible? Perhaps often not in most cases. There are no logical explanations as to how two people end up together, why they stay together. or why they fall apart. In most circumstances, it is not always the romantic reasons which keep two people together. The fear of being alone, the idea that "I finally found you, my first love, you must be my only love" can cloud the reality of the relationship.The first love is usually a lot like a school lesson, in which you learn what you want, need and desire from another person. If you chose to stay because you fear there is no on else, no one who suites these demands, then you're a fool. So why rush into anything with desperation? Surely, you have seen a couple or two walking down the street and wondered to yourself how the F they are together. How did she score that babe, how did he pocket that dime? Love doesn't always make sense. Nor it is easy, and therefore multiple factors come into play.
If you haven’t found that somebody yet, it is not to say that one day you won’t, and that when you do you’ll likely be in a better position to truly commit. This is because, with time, you will know, all that more clearly, what it is that you truly desire.
Are we meant to be? What exactly does that even mean. As much as we mull shit over, what’s meant to be is literally just the way things are, how they will turn out, and how they will be. You might not be able to change the reality of how things turn out, but you CAN change how you think about it, how you handle it, and what you do for yourself in order to get over it.
Are we soul mates? Yes, typically this blog believes in soul connections, but more so in the concept that we each have multiple soul mates in the world. Everyone has a personal map which connects all the soul mates of a lifetime. the concept of 'soul' cannot be limited to one single connection (deep). Astrology, here is defined and expressed through the connection of elements, and naturally, certain elements compliment each other better than others. There are several element related cliches that exist like "water kills fire" or "water and fire they just don't mix", but these cliques are often proven inaccurate. Everyone is constructed of a unique birth chart, and your dominating elements might not necessarily be your prescribed star sign.
Therefore if you don’t see your significant other beside your star sign below do not assume it is because you aren’t compatible. Some of the best matches are not written in the stars, but full of potential that is inspired by chemistry, diversity and life experience. Keep in mind that if you are a CUSP of a certain signs that you should read the compatibility reports for those signs as you likely will have an attraction to them, even if, in some cases, the compatibility won't be enough.I have presented images of couples who have survived and failed alike to illustrated that often or not, compatibility and attraction are not enough to keep a relationship lasting till eternity. Think about how many divorced people you know or how many old people you know with a cautionary tale to tell.If it's true what they say that something like 50% of marriages end in divorce, it is telling to note that those who do rush in, might be left with more misery than joy--yet there is something to be said for what you learned in your relationships, and the fond memories of the people you thought you loved, or perhaps still love, and can never forget. In cheesy film quote attribution: "The truth doesn't set us free. All that does is remind us that love isn't enough."
Enclosed are rough percentages of your token compatibility with certain signs. Let it be know that you probably won’t have any past experiences with your highly compatible (%  wise) “prescribed” astrological soul mate, which is why this post will include combinations, which work decently well % wise, and aren’t documented in the books as epic parings. If you are dating someone of a high compatibility it probably is the real deal. It has been noted that these 'perfect star' pairings aren't common, but when they do connect it can be quite blissful.70% is truly all one needs to build a concrete foundation of love, which includes the bare necessities. This being just enough things which a couple agrees on combined with just the right amount of opposition and difference. Remember this, compatibility doesn’t always result in a romantic affair, but perhaps a life long friendship, an enriching sexual experience, or even just an unspoken connection. Also, scroll for your star sign throughout the entire blog as your sign likely will appear under the heading of another signs. Also, if you are dating a particular sign, read about their compatibility with other people, it could prove to be telling of their relationship styles, needs and tendencies.
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  AQUARIUS AND…
   Aquarius Oprah and her Eternal Pisces Boyfriend 
PISCES (February 19-March 20):This is the sign that has the ability to get under AQ’s skin. Pisces makes AQ think, but in ways which AQ wouldn’t normally. Pisces connects AQ to their emotional world. AQ is attracted to Pisces' highly feminine nature, and finds them easy to open up to and discuss the elements of life with.This is the sign that can break down AQ’s emotional wall. The sexual connection will be on par, but emotionally Pisces won’t be able to compete with AQ’s inherent 'coolness'. Pisces will also be rebuffed by AQ's inability to under-think things.  Pisces may become needy, jealous and shrewd towards AQ's undying charm. If both are adventure seeking, sensual and intelligent they will move forward happily, however Pisces might drive AQ away with too much emotional intensity and hidden jealousy. If both are very free spirited they have a stronger chance of lasting. This connection is not written in the books as an elite match, but works out to an approximate 55% compatibility on average.We have a bit more faith in this pair than that (a lot more faith) especially if AQ is born closer to Pisces.
 There is also a theory that signs which neighbour one another have a special bond and this proclaimed spark is noted in the paring of Pisces and Aquarius. AQ also has to keep in mind how truly sensitive Pisces is.Aquarius can be mean, harsh when they want to be, and Pisces needs to keep a backbone in tact and be able to stand it. Pisces also needs to respect that AQ is not going to throw away their flirty nature or wandering eye. If these two don't work out, each will have a hard time forgetting the other, and the likelihood for a life long friendship is a high possibility. BE CAREFUL, Aquarius isn't often into conventional forms of commitment, or even commitment in general. Oprah has managed to string fish boy Stedman along without the aspects of marriage and children, which would legally bind them. Aquarius might take forever to give you what you want. I know of an Aquarius guy who dated his girlfriend for NINE YEARS before he let her move in. Her finger may remain ringless, but her biological clock started ticking as she started to long for children. His personal yearnings however, were not of the same caliber, though he was considering giving her want she wanted at the fear of losing her. It is important that AQ does things out of personal desire and not just out of ultimatum. Yes, "a happy wife is a happy life", but the lies you tell yourself to maintain this will eventually catch up to you. As The Postal Service sings, "you tell yourself to help you get by", perhaps it is time to start being honest!   
Aquarius Ellen and her Ex-lover Ann
GEMINI (May 21-June 20): This is love and could be forever love if orchestrated properly and kept ignited over time. AQ is in sync with the dual-natured ship  Gemini runs. They get on great in the sack ( a lot of exploration and experimentation) and have a lot of common life interests -- they formulate the picture perfect couple with a lot of shared secrets. Likewise they are similar in their emotional and mental capacity, they have tons to talk about, and are always presenting new material for the other. Gemini isn’t the type to sulk eternally, and with life seeking AQ by her side, she’ll want to show off her charm, instead of being the moody bitch which Gemini can be when charged, under slept, or under fed. Aquarius can have a way with making Gemini feel better during times of stress and anxiety.
Aquarius Whitney loved Gemini Bobby
These two hold a 90% compatibility and if in sync with one another can be a very strong, lasting pair. However, in cases like Bobby and Whitney, Gemini can get messy, self-destructive and moody, but Aquarius won't be prepared to pick up the pieces or deal with the mess. Gemini will need Aquarius but they will be off involved with personal matters of their own. Gemini won't admit the issues they need to work out, including addiction problems or eating disorders etc. Instead, they will cover up their issues in hopes to retain a image of perfection at all times. Aquarius will be distracted by other sexual prospects and adventures and not include Gemini. If things go wrong it will be emotional as neither is prepare to support the other. Both will carry on a public facade because they don't want to admit their struggles to anyone. They are a power alliance in that they understand each other's needs but don't always have the ability to support one another. If they are head over heels into each other, and keep in tune with each other's emotions and desire this could really work.
Ram King Vince and his Ex-Aquarius Playmate
ARIES (March 21-April 20): This will be hot, fire and air are wonderful elements together. The only problem here is Aries are rough on the edges, and hard to break into. AQ won’t be able to break and neither will Aries. Interest has to run high on both sides for this to warm up and become something worth pursuing. If their affair was short lived, it will be hard to forget. Aquarius won't be able to get Aries off their mind because AQ is so fascinated to know there is someone out there who is even more unobtainable than them. Aries and AQ are both emotionally distant, reserved and prone to self recluse, which is why they might fail if neither provides the initial jump starts. With a 55% percent compatibility rate their chances of true love will require a bit of work. 
GEMINI AND…
Gemini King Kanye and His Libra Lover Amber Rose
LIBRA (September 23-October 23):Being of the same air element both have a playful energy and attitude towards life. With a 75% percent compatibility rate they seek the joy in life through charisma and flirtatious friendliness. They will match each other in the bedroom, keeping an open and affectionate mind to detail. Libra is not sure of much, but Gemini will help Libra to reach lingering conclusions, without pushing them or making them feel shitty. Gemini will know when to not take Libra seriously and both will understand the ideology of having a 'wandering eye', in that they both likely have one (common theme in air signs), and will still seek attention from people they find attraction even when committed. This combo brings out the artistic and creative flare that both possess. They understand that neither is big on confrontation but more up for letting it go. 
Libra, however, can be mentally and physically lazy, which is  a piss off to Gemini, who will feel they are doing more than their share in order to support this quality of Libra's.Libra wants to start so many different things but finish nothing, while Gem wants to do a lot of things, and finish them all. They simulate in their attraction for other things and their short attention span for boredom.
Double Gems Natalie and Benjamin
GEMINI (May 21-June 20):Gems love others Gems, how shocking. Together they join in a 75% compatible, very playful, butterfly quality goodness, which consists of much witty banter and inquisitive conversations. They have the ability to have sex outside the box, and understand each other's wandering eye. They might join forces and take on some adventures in bed, threesomes, unique four-play, interesting costumes. They'll be able to play the emotional game of switching off roles: when one is emotional the other is intellectual.Although, there can be the faulty ability of each to say too much, or make childish remarks that hurt the other's feelings. Gem is a gossip sign and will say shit about the other behind their back, but they will change their face and go back on their original word. Gem's try to be the storybook of what a good partner is, and together, they will be very generous and over compensating for the other. Things could get intense really fast, and sometimes, if too fast, things will be short lived. 

           Life long Loves Aries (Beatty) and his Gemini Wife
ARIES (March 20-April 20): These two have the ability to have a lot of fun together and be the best of friends. Fire and air tend to understand each other's natures, and together hold a compatibility rate of 70%. Sexually and socially they will understand one another well ("flirt with whoever you find attractive tonight and I'll do the same") because they are both after similar things (like attention). If they are not perfect allies,  there might be an underlying layer of competition, which will take place between the two signs. There needs to be a jealousy agreement as Aries is competitive (and especially competitive with their own sex, which could lead to the need for male domination) and Gemini will also want to be the best. Gemini is a massive flirt and attracted to a variety of different things, which they feel the need to engage with. Even if their heart is set and faithful, Gemini needs to roam freely. They can't help but feel the need to charm the pretty and unobtainable, and they do it well, and sometimes even with patients. Arguments will ensue between these two as well as heated make-up moments. They will find it hard to leave each other no matter how high emotions run in the relationship -- they do have the ability to talk about anything. Even if they take distance from each other, when truly in love, they always tend to find each other.This is true in Aries and Gemini friendships. Gemini will only bore if Aries fails to attend, then, Gem, simply will seek attention from other suitors, other people, other projects because in time Gemini will realize that Aries' reclusive nature is not personal. Aries needs space and time to breath and won't always be kind when Gemini tries to council. Gemini has it's changing moods, while Aries has its temper.Gemini won't tell what's on their mind and Aries won't try to guess. Therefore each will have to have a good understanding and perception of the other in order to stay happy and open minded. 
CANCER AND...
Virgo Rishi Kapoor and his Cancer wife Neetu Singh
VIRGO (August 23-September 22): With a 75% compatibility rate these two will make each other laugh. Cancer will be just emotional enough for emotionally vaulted Virgo. Virgo thinks about his feelings more than he talks about them and Cancer will understand his/her need to hide behind humor. Cancer, like Virgo will be a protective, maternal and instinctive lover. When committed they will be nothing less of this. These two will make a good team because as they are prone to worry, together they will cover all the bases of a plan.If afflicted each will use their shrewd, cold and calculated side to push the other away. Cancer could grow sensitive to Virgo's coldness, craving cuddles and compassion that Virgo might not be in the mood for. Virgo thinks there is a time and place for love making, but Cancer can be more public in their pursuits (if in the spirit),which won't always sit well with Virgo.
Taurus woman Fox and Cancer Brian Austen Green 
TAURUS (April 20-May 20): With 80% compatibility this is another soul sign match.You will read about in any published astrology book. Cancer and Taurus will be the best of friends, the best of lovers and the best of partners. They will be able to communicate very well. Each has a knack for domestic affairs, building a sense of home life, and relaxing with each other. Cancer will help Taurus open up, allowing them to feel more comfortable. Taurus will feel like they can trust Cancer and Cancer benefits from having an emotionality stable, and highly practical partner. Cancer will be capable of taking control, or taking care of plans, but is smitten to know they can fall back on their very strong, in-demand Taurus lover. Cancer loves having someone they can always depend on. Taurus is Cancer's rock. They will combat when Cancer becomes moody and Taurus becomes stubborn. Taurus won't always be able to provide the emotional support and coaxing which Cancer will often require in order to get out of their shell.Sexually these two should be very in sync, however, Taurus might find they aren't as satisfied because they have a higher threshold for sex, but this is certainly not always the case. 
       Pisces Kurt Cobain and Cancer Courtney Love
PISCES (Feburary 19-March 20): Cancer and Pisces are a soul sign match of 90% compatibility. Each will possess a compassionate and heart-felt approach to life and each other. Love-making will be sensually in sync and usually of an epic nature. Both being of the water element, they will understand and respect the emotional complexities, which either will bring to the table. As water signs are prone to addictions of any kind (sex, drugs, gambling etc.), problems are likely to ensue. If both are unmotivated, drifting creatures of the water they may feel like no one holds the oar. Someone has to take the head of control for this love ship to sail as properly as possible.They will be highly emotional. They might both be guilty of revealing too much too soon or rushing into things too quickly, in which case it won't work out. They will scare from the relationship because things are moving too quickly. Rushing way into things, thoughts and feelings only to rush right out.These two have a sensual connection, which can be explosive (amazing even), but it can also be short lived if either is too immature and consumed by selfish desire. If they are on the right page however, this can be a romantic, thoughtful, spiritual, beyond-words communion of almost-perfect bliss.  
             VIRGO AND...
        Virgo Faith Hill and Her Taurus man McGraw 
TAURUS (May 20-April 20): As earth signs both possess a 90% compatibility rate.They have a common ground. Both signs love hanging out at home, having predictable sex (though much more predictable for Taurus than for Virgo) and talking privately about things. The problems arise here in that Taurus and Virgo are both signs of control, and they will fight for this. One might have to love the other a lot more in order to either suspense or exercise this control. Taurus needs to put their pride aside in order to stroke Virgo's ego, which is fragile.In turn, Taurus might start to seek other means of self validation. Taurus want to believe their partner thinks they are great, and because Virgo isn't a phoney, butt-kisser or ego stroker - -this may alarm Taurus's raging pride issues. Virgo here is more likely to think before acting or responding because Taurus stimulates their intellectual side. Taurus is likely to tolerate a lot of irritation before speaking on it, and often won't even speak on it at all. Taurus might be so fixated on kneading the relationship into something real, only to realize that it wasn't about love at all, but a need to get what they want. With the Taurus fascination of being and having the best things, and their undying desire to win and obtain, it is natural that they will stick it out with Virgo. Taurus doesn't want Virgo's guidance as much as Virgo might be willing to give it, but Taurus wants the tenderness. Taurus likes to find their answers on their own and won't socialize well with Virgo, unless given the space to show pride in the relationship. If Virgo is head over heels for Taurus they will let Taurus shine, they will want them to, and they will defend their honour to anyone who taints their name or image. If Virgo really loves Taurus they will put ego aside and declare their love, in some shape or form, big or small, in their intimate world. If this happens then this match has the alluring word "forever" written all over it.
Pisces Cindy Crawford and Virgo Richard Gere
PISCES (February 19- March 20): This is a dark horse combination of 70% compatibility. This is the match that true marriages are made of because each will challenge the other in a way, which builds character and evokes the compatibility of differences. As opposite signs they have a lot of opposing views and defense mechanisms. Virgo will not show Pisces their heart, but they will give their mind. As a highly intellectual sign, Virgo will internalize, and analyze, while Pisces will feel for the both of them. Sensitive Pisces may become emotionally rebuffed to Virgo's cold ways, but Pisces warmth will be an encouraging light for Virgo to bask in. Virgo will be able to talk to Pisces, and sexually this will be above and beyond both of their wildest dreams. Virgo has a way of making Pisces feel secure and comfortable, and therefore Pisces will let their guard down, allowing for sexual matrimony. Virgo will be attracted to Pisces feminine nature and together they can build a strong force, which won't be broken easily. Their bond is epically indescribable if real feelings exist. As stated before 70% is a healthy percent to build a true, long-lasting, love orientated relationship.When harmonious that is capable here. You can read more about the attraction of these two opposite signs here:
TAURUS AND..
Gemini Anna Kournikova and her Taurus Enrique 
GEMINI (May 20-June 21):) Another solid 70% compatibly match, Gemini and Taurus are a likely and fatal destiny, which isn't typically highlighted in the text books as the ultimate star sign combination, but often or not these two tend find each other and stay in close proximity of one another. They have the ability to be the best of friends, and present a perfect couple on a social level. Other people admire the bond shared between these two because it seems so effortless. It seems so natural and right. They enjoy each other's company and invest their time in similar interests. They just seem to mesh well. The problem lies in whether or not they are able to keep a bright flame burning. A flame that goes beyond just being really good friends who like a lot of the same things and a lot of the same people. The attraction has to be high in order to avoid this. Taurus will be irritated by Gemini's sometimes impulsive and sporadic ways, but  will never say anything. Gemini will think they are perfect and take no emotional responsibility, which is deep enough for Taurus to trust. While Taurus will admire Gemini's inherent hospitality and undying level of generosity, they won't always like the ways in which Gemini executes their plans of action. Taurus will want to treat their love too. Taurus gets joy from buying gifts and making others happy. Gemini wants Taurus to fit into their perfect world, as the perfect mate, but Gemini doesn't realize that Taurus' measuring bar of is of an even higher mark than theirs. Gemini, as a romantic partner, might not meet Taurus' high-maintenance needs, which require complete trust, material wealth, physical attraction and good breeding. Gemini's agenda might not live up to Taurus' agenda, because as much as Gemini might try, it will be Taurus who has the final say. The bulls wears the pants -- that's just the nature of the game. 
TAURUS (April 20-May20):Taurus loves Taurus. These two are 70% compatible as their common material need,  and structured, type-A bull personalities are so fixed that they click nicely. In wanting the same things and acquiring the same tastes, they will find it easy to satisfy their desires in a relationship. The problems will occur in their ability to protect their pride and act stubborn. Fighting with a Taurus is often impossible because they have a hard time saying, "hey, I was wrong." Taurus always knows where they are coming from and they expect their partner to also know. Dealing with this level of "bull-head" on a dual basis could be deadly. However, these two have a strong attraction to each other and a chemistry that is apparent from the start. Basically, if Taurus and Taurus love each other, they admire the traits in their partner that simulate with their own. Taurus loves Taurus because Taurus loves themself-- as long as Taurus remember to pay their partner Taurus the attention they require, this could work. Food indulgence between these two could be an issue, but also a positive thing which they share together. Love making will be of a highly sexual nature but also predominantly sensual. Emotionally this could be a problem because both signs do not cope/deal with emotions beyond the call of duty, which is why this could cause a lack of substance and eccentricity in the relationship. 

Jessica (Taurus) and her Capricorn man Cash 
CAPRICORN (December 22 - January 19): Under this decadent, Taurus is going to be more materialistic and domesticated. Capricorn isn't oppose to the lavish lifestyle and together they build a strong foundation. Taurus doesn't want to feel like they can't provide, but so does Capricorn and when they want to, they work to please each other nicely. Both of these signs will work themselves to the bone in trying to bring home the bacon and support the lifestyle of both their demands. At times the demands of each can be high and therefore this hard-working aura pays off. These earth signs are of a 95% (practically perfect) compatibility rate, which means on every level (physical, mental, spiritual) they should see eye to eye. The two have to be careful not to get caught up in this cycle of over-working, saving and spending because they could become: stingy, pessimistic, conventional, and unwilling to take chances. They need to develop a faith in each other, and trust that hard work deems rewards and supports happiness. They might fight over 'who is the boss', and will use each other's busy agendas against each other. Taurus might expect Capricorn to be available when they have time to play and when Capricorn doesn't deliver, this could be a problem. If one's high maintenance values overshadows the other they could have trouble, but when their stubborn sides aren't clashing, they are usually the very best of allies. 
  Fish girl Rihanna and her ex-bulldog Brown 
PISCES (February 19-March 20): These two work so well together. Pisces is up to play the submissive, and Taurus loves to control. Taurus will take the reigns that sometimes naive Pisces will offer up for free. Taurus will take over control, and this please Pisces. Taurus is more boxed off and vivacious Pisces will bring the bull out of it's shell. Taurus loves a highly feminine, exotic lover, and Pisces will provide that -- Taurus is attracted to Pisces right away. There sensual connection will run high, and they will usually have a lot in common. With an 85% compatibility these two have the bearing for a long term connection and spiritual bliss, however there issues lie in the problems with control. Taurus will be temperamental until stricken, and then will make like a bull in a china shop. Pisces has a strong side but won't show it, especially if they fear their partner. Rhiannon and Chris brown are a perfect example of how this meant to be match, can go wrong, read more here: http://whatsyourbirthday.blogspot.com/2010/08/bull-vs-fish.html
        LEO AND…
Half Man Half Amazing (Virgo) Nas and his ex-Leo Kelis 
VIRGO (August 23-September 22): There are previous postings about this pair, which elaborate on this hidden match made in heaven. For a detail perspective click here: http://whatsyourbirthday.blogspot.com/2010/08/virgo-vs-leo.html With a 70% compatibility rate, these two aren't logistically a perfect star sign match, but in reality they often tend to work, and work well.Virgo is more introspected, introverted, and a private thinker -- while Leo will extrovert their emotions, even if not notably. These two compliment each other's natures because Virgo is the sign, which is capable of giving Leo the light to shine. Keep in mind it is possible for Leo to have several Virgos in their past, the attraction between this two is paramount, but Virgo is a very mutable sign, so shitty men do run within. Leo may get caught up here, but that is simply because Virgo will not validate Leo. Leo will constantly need other sources to strut their greatness, and may get exhausted by their extracurricular activities which lead them to stray away from their partner. Leo needs to realize that they can trust Virgo, Virgo is loyal and loving in a protective, domestic way, which doesn't require public flaunting and excessive romance. Leo Kelis didn't stand for Virgo's need for attention either. While Leo might like it for themself, Leo will not settle for competing with the attraction of other people.Despite whatever, the odds are in their favor. 
 Leo JLO and her Scorpio P.Diddy
SCORPIO (October 24-November 21): With 75% compatibility, for some reason, this is another match that simply tends to find one another. On a global perspective, likely many Scorpios and Leos have met eyes, or joined forces at some point. Leo likes to be the center of attention, even if discreetly, and Scorpio can handle this. Scorpio wants the 'full on' love, which 'in love' Leo demands. Scorpio will be jealous and possessive, which excites the ego of Leo because Leo needs to know that they are prized. Sexually Leo will be very fulfilled by Scorpio, and passion will run high among the two (meaning they will also have passionate debates). This can be great, except, as noted, when Scorpio is good he is good, but when he is bad he is bad, and sometimes this means really bad. Leo will grow fickle if Scorpio get into a slump OR Scorpio will be frustrated with Leo's lazy, self-indulgent ways. These two will only have the patience for one another if they are willing to do so. It is important for Scorpio to feel a sense of accomplishment, but Leo needs to love Scorpio for Scorpio and not just because Scorpio loves Leo. If Leo is in love with more than just the idea of being loved, this can be a very passionate and powerful union. 
     Cancer 50 cent and his Leo Date Vivica A. Fox
CANCER (June 21-July 22): These two are star sign neighbours and possess a strong inclination for similar things. They both value romance, and intimacy of an emotional and passionate nature. They will have sensitive conversation, make each other laugh and connect on a sensual level. They score a 70% compatibility rate, which means they do have the backings of what one needs to build a good marriage. They differ however, in Leo's inability to deal with too much emotional drama from another person. Cancer gets moody and Leo feels neglected and therefore becomes reclusive -- Leo can't handle this. Leo will devote herself to the person they love, but will shy from a girl/guy who is too emotional. Leo needs to shine, have their ego stroked, and if Cancer gets too crabby to give this to Leo, than they will find validation elsewhere. Leo might also get trapped because Leo is used to "breaking the hearts" not having them broken, and sometimes if a person doesn't give Leo the love they usually receive, Leo will become self abusive and stick around only to take more unhappiness from their partner. If both parties are invested whole heartily with the intention of lasting, this really could be a great match. 
CAPRICORN AND..
Virgo Diaz and her Ex Capricorn Leto
VIRGO (August 23-September 22): This combination might be a bit boring and comfortable, "what a perfectly comfortable couple" clique,but it works. They can sit around sipping tea, talking about nothing for hours. They are both earthy and 95% compatible in nature. They each work hard, and like to take control of situations. Together they are capable of planning the best dinner parties, as they are prone to give, give, give, work, work, work, until they cannot be validated any longer. There might not be an explosion of highly romantic gestures, but there will be a lot of comfort, security and expensive gifts. Together they can build a beautiful family and home foundation, which is full of stability and trust. Virgo, un-attracted to the superficial, may get tired of Capricorn's sometimes "fake" ways.Virgo will look for excitement and attention in other realms if Capricorn isn't aware of Virgo's needs-- this could be problematic. Overall they have the bearings, which are essential to any healthy and lasting relationship. 
PISCES AND...
Caption Ron Capricorn and his Fishy Sammy
CAPRICORN (February 19-March 20):Pisces will provide (sometimes boring and habitual) Capricorn with the excitement they need and require to live a fruitful life. Pisces will protect righteous Capricorn and turn their lives into a world of fun, oppose to vigor and order. Love-making will be compassionate and interesting as Pisces will meet Capricorn's aesthetic needs. Pisces might be too sensitive for Cap because Cap is not one to give free ranged love. They are methodical and Pisces is spontaneous. Pisces might sometime feel like they are working their ass off to get past a dead end. With 85% compatibility these two could hit it off if Capricorn is willing to let Pisces slide through their perfectly organized chaos. Pisces can be sneaky or disorganized and Capricorn likes to have all the cards on the table. A part of Capricorn's appeal to Pisces is that the fish will let Capricorn takes a lot of control, however, the Pisces will eventually strike back. At which point Capricorn won't be having it. Caps love to please others, but they have a certain level of self respect which cannot be crossed. Pisces will test the patience of this sometimes, especially if Pisces finds themself overindulging in deviant behaviours, alcohol, or drugs of any kind.      
Sagittarius Holmes and EX Pisces Chris Kline
SAGITTARIUS (November 22-December 21): Sag is attracted to Pisces vivacious, charming and endearing nature. Pisces finds Sag amusing and together they become fun-time allies. They admire each other in a unspoken flirtation of the mind and body. Conversation here should be of an epic value, full of substance, and a lot of potential chemistry. Sag will tease Pisces who is sensitive, Sag will love to play on Pisces gullible nature and will do anything to get a reaction. Emotionally, they will differ, Pisces will need a lot of reassurance, which Sag isn't always capable of putting up with. It is not that Sag doesn't care. it is simply that they don't know what to say because they often don't open up in "that" way. Sag is another sign to rarely show weakness, which serves as a good balance for wishy-washy and sometimes weak Pisces. Sag loves Pisces feisty side, but has it's threshold with Pisces moody and self-depricating side. If tuned into each other, this could be great.                   
SCORPIO AND...
     Pisces Hawn and her Scorpio man Ron Howard
PISCES (February 19-March 20): This is an epic water sign pairing of 90% compatibility. These two just understand each other-- they think the same. Pisces can read Scorpio, very well. Scorpio is use to fooling everyone into thinking they are emotionally inept by introverting   most of their thought and feelings. Both provide each other with the level of empathy required, and communication between them is great. Pisces and Scorpio are moody alike, which is their downfall. In order to support each other, one has to be stronger than the other. There needs to be a protector. Pisces might not respond well to Scorpio's possessive or jealous nature, but the commonality is that once in love, both realize they need each other. Water signs crave love, they dream about love, and if this pairing is right they are provided with the chance to make this love a hallmark reality. When Scorpio is good he's good and when he's bad he's bad -- this applies to Pisces as well, which is why the duo will be highly magnetic, and intensely magnified by emotions. Together they are dangerous in both the best and worst ways possible.
      Gemini Kravis and his EX Scorpio lover Lisa Bonet 
GEMINI (May 21-June 20): These two can find harmony in one another if they are living 'in the moment' with one another in the pursuit of enjoyment, lust and patient love. It usually takes Scorpio a lot longer than Gemini to grow up and settle down. With a 60% compatibility rate, Scorpio can be very reserved and not up for battle wounds, which Gemini can deal with, but at some point Gemini is going to want a response from Scorpio. Gemini will want to talk about things, which Scorpio will never share, only show. If Scorpio is highly introverted and private this could pose a problem. However, if there is any sign that is capable of supporting a person unable to deal with emotions it is fleeting Gemini. However, at some point Gemini is going to want to live out their life long fantasy of a perfect life, a perfect wedding with the perfect person. Gemini will want to transform fixed Scorpio into the man of their dreams. When Gemini realizes there is no altering Scorpio, nor is there any pushing of Scorpio, Gemini will start to wander. The wandering will first start in their head and then move on to their actions. These two can have great sex and great friendship, and a lot of fun, their only true difference lies in whether or not they can translate onto the bigger life picture. Is Scorpio really a soul mate for Gemini? Possibly not, but this does work well if the Scorpio's birthday falls closer to Libra, or if Gemini falls closer to cancer -- these two cusp signs ARE soul mates, and therefore this energy can create for a very long lasting, and fulfilling pair. 
  ARIES AND...
Aries Victoria and Taurus David
TAURUS (May 20-April 20): This is the ultimate power alliance -- IF it works, there is a 60% percent supposed chance. Both of these signs fight for Control. Taurus wants it their way, and Aries has great need to control too, but also Aries needs time alone. They have a lot of stuff to do. Both signs have a very strong outer shell and will find it hard to move forward with someone, in a long-lasting relationship if they were hurt in the past. When a hard shell is broken, it takes a lot longer to repair. Aries would rather fuck off and do their own thing, work super hard and explore love casually than sacrifice the demands of real life. However, if these two can open up, and let each other in, they can become the best of allies. The sexual connection will be strong, each will bring a raw, open, animalistic, highly physical approach to the sexual world. They are both symbolically animals (ram and bull) and therefore understand each other's land roaming nature. When in love, both have a very tender, loyal and loving side, which can be expressed greatly if they are open to the ideal of long term commitment and each other. Taurus rarely leaves when in love, they possess the lowest astrological percentage of divorce rates, they stick. Aries has a commitment phobia but Taurus is devoted and stable -- if Aries loves Taurus whole-heartidly and without fear then they have nothing to worry about. 
Leo Afleck and Aries Gardner
LEO (July 23-August 22): Aries and Leo are 90% compatible -- the stuff that dream relationships are made of. I like to think of this paring as 'the peas and carrots combination' because words don't justify how they just jive romantically. Leo and Aries is a lot like Scorpio and Pisces, when it connects --it really connects. If these two execute their desires properly (without fear, or too much pride), together they are better than anything else. Together they are a true force to be reckon with because neither is prepared to show weakness or a lack of confidence. They will be the best of friends in that they will get along, understand each other's perceptions, senses of humour, social demeanour and emotional tendencies. Aries, under the sign of Leo (if truly in love), will likely become less selfish, putting their personal goals aside in order to make the love work. Aries is in charge, but LEO RULES. Normally Aries will 'put up' with a partner they may try to cajole into perfection, but Leo is practically perfect (sometimes to the point of irritation) and Aries can't help but admit it here. Both signs love to dominate, take the lead, and hold the reigns, which is why they will either have to meet half way, or surrender certain elements of control which usually drove their past relationships. Leo and Aries will both want to shine, but each has to be caution that they don't forget the needs of their partner and attempt to over-shine them. Leo may not always speak on their irritation of Aries, but the lion won't respond well to being bossed around--'don't tell me my business'. Leo is the king of the jungle and Aries is first in line, first in the zodiac, and therefore not used to coming second. Leo will teach Aries that some things and some people are worth relaxing for. Leo loves to be in love, and this is a good thing because if in love, Aries will find that Leo meets a lot of their picky partner criteria.
   LIBRA AND...
Libra Gwen and Her Scorpio Hubby
SCORPIO (October 24-November 21): These signs have a hard time leaving one another. With a high compatibility rate of 85%, escaping one another will be hard to do. Libra is very wishy-washy with their feelings and ability to make decisions, while Scorpio is a lot more in control of them. Scorpio will never leave, and Libra will keep coming back. Libra is attracted to both Scorpio's sexy nature, in addition to their ability to take control of situations when needed. Scorpio is very much their own person, their own kind of boss, and Libra needs to take hold of these ropes in a relationship. Without the possessive nature that Scorpio indirectly bestows upon his mate, Libra will be left to go astray. Scorpio and Libra share an artistic connection, they appreciate similar things, like music, good friends, art, and technology. The problems will lie in Scorpio's need to get a bit more from Libra. Scorpio wants Libra to take the lead (in some aspects) and prove their devotion through concrete vocations. They want complete acceptance from emotionally introverted Scorpio. Libra will also not do well with Scorpio's jealousy issues because Libra is so flirty and easily distracted they can't help but get caught in other things/people. Sometimes it seems Scorpio can do whatever they want, right? So why can't Libra? A trust has to form and when it does, this will really work, and work well.



Libra Gwen and Sagittarius Brad
SAGITTARIUS (November 22-December 21): Libra will give Sag just the amount of control they need when gambling their adventures. Sag is all business by nature and Libra is all play, so the opposition here will conjoin nicely. Libra will support and join Sag on their travelling adventures.Sag will give Libra the sense of strong balance, which they need in order to be more decisive and take more chances in life. Libra can get bogged down by routine and Sag will help to keep Libra's life fresh. Sag will not respond well to Libra's natural indecision and noncommittal nature, which will be their downfall, but each is curious, flirtatious and charming. These traits can lead to trouble for either of them if they seek to discover others ways of satisfying their egos. These two share an 80% compatibility rate because they have the ability to truly understand each other, and form a well-balanced union.

SAGITTARIUS AND... 
Virgo Beyonace and Sagittarius JayZ
VIRGO (August 23-September 22): Another 70% compatible match, these two have the foundation for what lasting marriages are made of. In a perfect world, they create just the right balance for one another. They will understand each other's hang-ups and means of control because they both have anal tendencies, which the other approves of. If Virgo is clean Sagittarius is anal retentive. If Virgo is general, Sag is cheap. Virgo will be annoyed by Sag's worldly antics at times. Sag will want to seek adventure or party while Virgo would rather stay at home under a warm blanket, or under really nice sheets inside a really nice hotel. Regardless, they still possess the ability to truly connect with one another because they will be able to provide each other with things they cannot provide for themselves. Sag males would like Virgo to take on the caretaker role, providing dinner and a listening ear for all their philosophical banter. Virgo would like Sag to be helpful and appreciative of their efforts. Virgo will never deny the lavish life even if they try to be modest about it. Virgo doesn't want ego, but they do have strongly set desires. Virgo wants a partner they can depend on, some one who under stand their needs and sometimes indulgent behaviour. They need a partner who understands how much they need space and self time and Sag provides this. Virgo provides a level of stability, which appeases Sag.
Sag Britney and her Sag boy
SAGITTARIUS (November 22-December 21): Explosive fireworks -- how we love the heat of passion, but fear the burn -- and this can burn, but usually not at the very start. Typically, these two will get on well, 85% compatible they will both love travel, random excitement, seeking adventure, saving money and flexing uncanny charm. They understand each other, sometimes too much,as they will likely realize how selfish they both are at heart. It is important that double Sag couples don't get caught up in their own agenda so much that they might forget about the agenda of their partner. Sag wants an adventurous, passionate partner, but they also need a caretaker--someone who can provide emotional support. Sag is a natural born hustler, in that they are usually, in some shape or form trying to make some bacon. Therefore Sag wouldn't necessarily mind having something warm, delicious and loving to come home to. Sag is great about taking and generally can carry on an entertaining conversation, with natural philosophical logistics and the emotional sternness to deal with problems and crisis. Sag needs to work on their emotional capacity, and they need to be with someone they can trust in sharing their private emotions with. If these two don't open up to each other in all emotional honesty, they could face problems. They need to feel comfortable enough to talk about their inner thoughts and fears. If either fails to meet the needs of the other, eyes will wander and new flirtations, prospects and potential flings could occur (worst case scenario.) 
Sagittarius Ben Stiller and His Leo Wife Christine Taylor 
LEO (July 23-August 22): These two signs will be the best of friends. 95% compatibly, their fiery energies compliment each other nicely. Together they can build the best of adventures, share amazing laughs and connect on a mental level that surpasses most. They understand each other in the bedroom. They are partners of crime, socially, they get into trouble together and have tons of fun. There is a lot of pride in these signs so arguments will be explosive but generally short-lived.Both will require a certain amount of attention, and if either gets too wrapped up in their "stuff", they will be unable to help the other. The key here is that neither becomes or feels neglected. Sag can be distracted by other purists, other sexual distractions so Leo needs to keep their partner satisfied and pay attention to their feelings. Leo needs a lot of ego stroking, and will have a hard time admitting when wrong. Leo may not forget, but Sag will forget for the both of them. Leo will also have difficulty with Sag's frugal nature, even though, Leo male is prone to keeping a tab on things, saving his money and spending wisely. Together they have the potential for financial matrimony. Minimal greatness is often the slogan here, but not necessarily in the case of female Leo. All in all these fire signs have a great chance of making a long-lasting relationship work. This is usually a very successful pairing. 
Other love signs that could/could not work:  
 Cancer and Cancer 75%
Cancer and Gemmini 60%
Leo and Taurus 70%
Aquarius and Capricorn 70%
Aquarius and Taurus 80%
Scorpio and Taurus 85%
Libra and Aries 70%
Pisces and Aries 65%
Aries and Scorpio 80%
Leo and Pisces 75%
Leo and Aquarius 70%
Gemini and Sagittarius 75%
Libra and Virgo 80%
Aries and Cancer 65%
Aquarius and Aquarius 80%
Aquarius and Cancer 70%
Aquarius and Scorpio 60%
Virgo and Gemini 75%
Scorpio and Cancer 95%
Sagittarius and Scorpio 80%
*Please feel free request any love-match combination not in this blog*

On the whole front, it really doesn't matter what star sign your partner is. The most important thing is keeping it fresh. Image a relationship like a teddy bear, when a child first gets it, they hold it in their arms, and take tender care of it. The sentimental attachment begins.

They want to bring their teddy bear with them everywhere. Over time, they still want to bring their bear with them, but their holding it by one hand, dragging it behind them. After a while you might still want to physically be with your mate, but if you find yourself dragging them by the arm, in approximation to a child dragging its teddy bear, perhaps it is time to try something new. 
     HAPPY HUNTING!


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Tuesday, March 22, 2011

Can You Surrender Your Swag for Seven Days?

 Wishing on Stars for Japan.

Tragedy is heart-breaking. It makes you feel helpless, hopeless, sad, confused. frustrated, worried, and scared. Most importantly, it puts your life into perspective. A perspective, which doesn't always last as long as it should. There is the initial epiphany, after the disaster strikes, but can you makes this realization last? When we are not immediately affected, why is it so easy to let go of new-found perspectives?What really matters? Do you effectively put yourself and your priorities into perspective? Do you truly challenge yourself to live the life you desire? I propose to you a seven day challenge of pushing yourself to a new personal limit or giving up something, anything, which you feel you need,which in reality you don't. For example, if you are someone who can't go out in public without makeup -- I challenge you to do this. Men are always telling me that they prefer natural beauty. That they are after a girl who looks good when she wakes up in the morning.  Rapper Drake is always singing hooks like, "just because your simple doesn't mean you lose your appeal"/"sweatpants chillin' with no makeup on/ That's when your the prettiest/ I hope that you don't take it wrong"--is there truth in this? All that shit you put on your face, all that stuff you wear, which you think defines you, gives you style, gives you voice, makes you look good -- really isn't doing or giving you much or is it just apart of your swag? (By the unlikely chance that you are unsure of what the word swag could mean please find a useful definition here: http://www.urbandictionary.com/define.php?term=swag)

Looking good is in the interest of most people, but sometimes it is good to strip yourself of the things you think you need in order to realize that you don't actually need any concrete, physical thing in order to be happy. Life isn't about the trivial, the material or the vain --  but we make it that way. For most, it is so easy to slouch into your comfort zones of fortune and fabulous. To rock out with your hip posses in all black, skinny jeans and lace. Or in some cases, all label everything. It is so much easier to squeal and boast about your upcoming vacation or new pair of boots to your "friends" on facebook/twitter because life is suppose to go on? Yes, but what's the negative in challenging ourselves to give up something we feel we can't? Or pushing ourselves to reach for something we don't think we have the confidence to obtain?

 It doesn't have to be make-up, it could be leaving a cell phone at home, canceling a wax or nail appointment or cutting yourself off from shopping ANYTHING that you use or do to make yourself feel good (anything that would be a considered a privilege to a given lifestyles.) As I know many will not oblige, it simply might be an interesting experiment to test one's securities and see if they can survive with the bare necessities.
 Texting can be a social crutch just like shopping can serve as a form of addiction, and it might be tough to do, but it will be telling in the least. The test will say a lot about you, even if your like, "fuck that, there is no way I am going out without make-up." That's fine, you'll quickly learn that you are highly vain person who doesn't believe in their own natural abilities/beauties/personal qualities :p

The Star Signs and Their Swag:

Aries (March 21-April 19): Your not one to ever project a look that isn't fabulous and flattering. You like to look good, but Aries is ruled by the planet Mars (Mars is the ancient god of war), which is why many Aries are capable of living in the essence of 'survival of the fittest.'Meaning that all they acquire is their natural zest and talents to excel in life. They are not likely to be self-disciplined, they take charge and exert their ability to take control in a crisis. If they use make up, they do so in a tasteful manner. If they buy clothes it usually not as impulsive or productive as others signs, but achieved in a methodical, often calculated manner. Mind you, Aries girl and boy both enjoy having a good time and therefore possess a flare for fashion, vintage shopping, or outfit creating. They may have a thing for costumes or 'out there' attires that others can't pull off with confidence or laughter. Therefore the Aries challenge is to calm down a bit--relax you overly determined ram. Stop with the self pressure and figure out what it feels to breath in the moment. Aries is useless to others if they aren't in a good self position so when making new goals for yourself please focus on how you can change your  personal outlook and approach to life. You won't find joy in controlling others to do what you desire unhappily. Trust that things will work out, even without your ram headed push to pull forward and ahead of everyone in the game. Travel light. Stop trying to plan out the future so much, just let life take you, if you let it take you, it will, and you might end up pleasantly surprised.
Scorpio (October 24-November 21): The Scorpio swag is on the low key, but if portrayed accurately, it is very telling of the mysterious Scorpio ways. The Scorpio will be an individual, even if they are wearing what everyone else is. Though they pull off the sexy card perfectly, often without much effort,  all water sign have a tendencies to be caught in the mirror (water is far more mutable element, and weaker in fighting nature, water signs tend to be hard on themself.) For Scorpio the challenge should be of an emotional nature. Saying everything she/he wants to say. You realize seven thousand people don't know they ticked you off  or that you are still mad at them because you never said anything? Time to make resolutions, Scorpio!The challenge can also be met by taking the time to let someone in a bit closer without certain restrictions, which prevent relationships from taking flight in the way that they should. Scorpio, as often as you've read it, expresses insane amounts of trust issues, which is why they often move so slowly with their partners or why they contemplate the future in a negative lenses. They just "don't know" but they want to know, and allowing themself to deal with what's on their minds, without the fear, without the hold back could really prove to be prosperous. For scandalous Scorpio perhaps they could try to leave their pants on for a night and stop using sex as a way of dealing with your true emotional complexity.
Leo (July 23-August 22): I think the Leo lady would like to be crowned queen of the swag, while Leo guy is extremely different and generally a lot more low key. Don't get me wrong, both sexes in this sign like to look good, but Leo woman will pay the price, take that drive,  and max out her credit card in order to get what she wants. Simply because Leo woman always gets what she wants (in some shape or regard), even if there is a price to be paid in the aftermath, her dreams are usually big, paramount, growing/ever-changing over time. Just like she might have many lovers, "great love", flings etc. until she eventually find the one. She won't sit well alone, and will often always have a male partner to entertain her in some form. Leo guy is sure of himself too but, in a much more modest way (he doesn't need you, you need him). There are certainly the "look at me" center of attention male types, but the need to be swagged out isn't as president because Leo guy feels he looks good just as he is. He in his natural form is the definition of sway. This is likely also because Leo guy is cheap, but you'll love how he's always capable of keeping steady loot in the bank (even if he doesn't spend it on you). For Leo,  the challenge is 1) figuring out what you really love/want to be and stick to it 2) to do something really nice for others. You may think you do a lot for others, and your heart is huge, but hiding behind in the shadow of your loyal friends, or career hopping is only going to drive you loco in the end. Help others in order to find out what makes you the happiest because you know keeping yourself happy is the key component to a lovely Leo living. Don't always feel the need to outshine the ones you love -- being the best doesn't mean lying to yourself or others for the sake of your ego.
Sagittarius (November 22-December 21) : Swag is either obtained in two ways here, either you are the frugal archer who will brag about what they consider to be "the best deal ever": two pairs of shoes for $40 bucks, a dress for $9.99, whatever. While some Sag's will hide their desires for the finer things by exercising their cheap thrills, there will be the opposite types who will refrain from purchasing until they eventually SPLURGE on really expensive Versace jeans and Gucci loafers. In this case, the Sag will spend when they are on a impulsive high, but will still keep a mental note about this frivolous spending. The challenge here isn't really to tighten up, but to loosen up (loosen up the purse strings). Sag always has more money than they think they do, and especially has more than they let on. This might be the time to dip into those savings and donate some money to Japan. If your so self involved and you don't see this as your personal priority, I dare you to do something productive, impulsive and enjoyable for yourself, but try, if you can, to include others in this. If your thirsty for a new adventure, don't calculate every penny in your head. It is crucial for you to enjoy your life a bit more without this fear of the future -- life is happening RIGHT NOW it is time to sit back, shut up, and enjoy the ride. Throw away the receipt. If you take your gf/bf out for an expensive dinner/date DON'T rub it in. Do it because you want to NOT because you expect credit for it of any kind. That's tacky.
 Capricorn (December 22-January 19): You may not admit it, but there is a part of you that likes the better things in life. You want to be proper, conventional, with a seal of stamp approval. You like to be classy. Wild milk goats might play with this concept but inventing their own form of class, but either way, Capricorn does set or create a standard to their impeccable lifestyle. Even if you are a hippy, chronic pot smoking Capricorn, your still the boss of your hip house and there are certain principals that you set because you are undeniably in control. The challenge here is to lower your life expectation. Try to open your mind to things you normally would scrunch your nose at. Go out to a club and make yourself stay longer than 50 minutes. Leave your house. Wear color. Wear print. Date someone outside of your comfort zone. Do something you want/need to even if you think others will judge, object or scrutinize. You need to reorganize the boundaries of your preconceived life -- go beyond the bridge that is blocking you. Cry. Tell someone a secret about yourself. Embarrass yourself. Force yourself to do something you would never do, even if this means joining an online dating site or taking a belly dancing class. Get out of the house. Get off your computer, and get off the coach. Take those chances but don't have expectations for them and if things don't work out the way you'd like them to, don't stop. Pushing yourself more and more will only lead to other opportunities for happiness.
 Aquarius: (January 20-Febuary 18) Your swag is one of a kind. You probably have some weird clothing fetish for hats, scarfs, sunglasses, fur etc. Even if you dress more mainstream, you likely put yourself together in a way that gives you a sense of flare. You like what you like and can pull off a lot of different things, which others admire but don't dare try. Simply, they don't have your swag. The only real problem is that you are such a yo-yo, everything, including your swag, changes with your state of emotional flux. Aquarius can be the one to literally wear or express their feelings through their fashions. This is because AQ will often hide their true intentions from others. They have emotions, but they deal with them on a very private level and will only let you in if they present you will the magic key. This in itself is a daily challenge. YOU THINK TOO MUCH. It's time to take the brain out of the equation. You love adventure, you love the opposite sex, but you think too much. You are attracted to pretty things, but as they say, the hotter a person is, the crazier they come. You have to go in blind. You, especially express the role of the loner. Not to say you don't have friends, you might rarely be alone your so popular and admired, but you are a wolf in sheep's clothing. You are not as you seem. Don't save your true feelings for your best friend who "promises not to tell." Shoot straight. Challenge yourself to embrace emotional vulnerability and challenge yourself to stick to something you start. Fuck fear in the face -- you don't need it. Don't be hard on yourself -- just be you, unplugged, people will applaud.
Taurus (April 20-May 20): Swag is built into the grains of sand, which construct your sandcastle mansion. You define yourself through materials, and likely don't have shame in it: give me more. Though stubborn Taurus won't admit anything that their pride can't bite. Pride is big in this sign and if you test it you will see the bitch of it. This pride is also entangled in Taurus's swag: designer clothing, nice shoes, shopping addictions, commercialized vacations, nice cars, gourmet food. The love of the luxury is found predominantly in both Taurus men and women. For example, Taurus guy is often into "his toys", the latest phone, the best computer, a nice fucking car. While Taurus girl is often like a princess, she gets her nails did, her hair did, and her shopping light is always on, even if she's not buying. Taurus is very pragmatic, so they will often "mull over" purchases, even for long periods of time, but in the end, they get what they want. They obtain, it's just what they do. Taurus can't help but be drawn to the finer things in life. The challenge here is to pull away from self pamper and shopping for seven days. Hide your credit cards. Block your favorite online shopping sights. Realize you have heaps of clothes, some which might even still have the price tags on, and it is okay to wear the same outfit more than once. If this is too painful, use your imagination and try to layer or accessorize your clothes in a way that allows you to create a new look without paying for it. Taurus is the money sign. They love money. They will work their asses off for coin. This desire is immaculate but could be redirected to something, which may seem unheard of to Taurus, like, Volunteer work? Maybe? No?! Yeah, I didn't think so...
Gemini (May 21-June 20) : If Taurus is the most material sign, Gemini is the most vain. She's not the type to rule out plastic surgery, just as he's more of a chic than he is a dude. In fact, his guy friends likely make fun of him because he likes to shop just as much as his sister. The Gemini dude usually has just as many hair products as his girlfriend, if not more. They are pro moisturizer, trendy hair cut, and fake tan. Gems are prone to detail and therefore can't help but be caught in the mirror plucking away at those unwanted hairs. He might wax his chest, or straighten his hair and deny it, but there is a very strong feminine energy here. Gem girls get along really well with males, while Gem boys get along really well with females. The challenge here is to stray away from the vain. You should go out "looking like shit", only to find its all in your head. People find you naturally attractive, but your own social insecurities prevent you from knowing this. In part it is a self fulfilling prophecy, in which you believe your swag, and aesthetic efforts make you look good. You can still be that pregnant woman dressed to the nine, walking in heels, but for seven days I challenge you to focus on other aspects of life. Read a book. Put down the shitty tabloid. Wear less makeup. Dress it down. Shop less. Challenge yourself not to make vain judgments on others  because not everything is calculated on appearances.There is a bitch that lives in every Gem, who can't always help but make fun of those they perceive as beneath their sweet swag and style. Open your heart, and don't close your mind -- see where this takes you, even if it is wildly uncomfortable, and you want to bitch about it (these words are meant to be taken in vain as Gemini may never accept the challenge.)
 Virgo (August 23-September 22) : Your swag is sweet but down to earth. You have great taste but you don't shop without practicality, and you don't over do it because you genuinely admire natural beauty. You are the type to have the same top in three colors (likely dark/neutral tones.)You don't want to stand out with your style in a loud way, you want to look good, but in a sly, chic, sexy way that incorporates basic colors and still manages to attract eyes. Your swag is simple, but some in cases, of a high quality or expensive taste. Classy not trashy.You'll take the best if you can get it easily, but that's rarely an option. Virgo is picky. They want the best, and are highly critical of everything, which is why they rarely make a "buy in." This poker expression is to be viewed in the sense that Virgo will not invest in anything or anyone unless they see a valid reason. Critical thinkers by nature, the Virgo isn't one to break from their mold of what they consider to be ideal. The challenge here is to EXPRESS LOVE oppose to criticism (and to do it sober). Yes, your cynical, witty, intelligent banter is what people love about you, but they also want to be/feel admired by you. Tell the people in your life that you love them. Try to force yourself into oppositional thinking. Instead of reverting back to your safe haven of sarcastic humor -- you can switch back to it in seven days. I know your not really one to be changed on whim, but the challenge is to show your sweet side to someone, you know it it hiding in there somewhere. No one is judging you or thinking your "uncool", it is only programmed into your own head, which is usually out to get you.
Cancer (June 21-July 22): Your swag can get a bit messy. If your a Cancer dude, you might think you have style, but likely it is a bit messy. Not to say you can't dress well, but just to say that every Cancer has a "I don't give a fuck" side in which they plop their hair on the top of their head or in a dirty baseball cap, throw on some sweats and roll. Don't get it confused when you see him/her looking like a million bucks on a special occasion because this does occur. Swag in this case is often quite moody, but the key to a Cancer's swag is comfort. They don't like to be pushed out of their comfort, which might mean, "she doesn't wear pants" or "she doesn't wear dresses." He might never be without his shorts, even in winter because he finds them cozy and just won't budge. Girls here likely don't have the most expensive taste but, love to decorate their fashions with accessories. Cancer knows how to make it look like they spent a lot. They are crafty with their swag. The challenge here isn't necessarily to surrender the swag, but to surrender the need to protect others. Cancer might exert protection on others in order to take away from their own emotional short comings -- don't hide behind another person, or a relationship for comfort. Do something for yourself, something you normally never would, maybe something you always longed for, and do it big. Don't be afraid to let others in on how your are feeling -- people want to know.
 Libra (September 23-October 23): You love your swag, even if your broke you got swag, even if you are sick you got swag, and everybody knows it. You define what it means to have your own swag, the "you can't touch this" kind of style, which others compliment you on the regular. Even dudes in this sign generally, but not always have a sense of style. He just might be the kind of boyfriend who encourages shopping dates. She's a fashionista, and usually has her own personal style, which is so annoyingly well pull together it makes you green with envy. She set trends. He intimates with style.The challenge here is to direct the focus off of the swag onto your personal life. There is likely someone in your life who is looking for a clue from you -- surprise them by making up your mind in advance. Focus your fleeting attention. Or even better, be the one to get the ball rolling by making a PLAN. Yes, a real plan, something that does not requires the use of the word maybe. In fact, you are challenged to eliminate the word "maybe" from your vocabulary. Though not possible, especially for a Libra, I hereby dare you to try.
Pisces (February 19-March 20): You don't have a lot of money, or if you do, you are likely shit with it but, you'll spare what you got for the sake of your swag. Pisces is highly creative so her style is usually put together in an untouchable way-- Pisces knows how to personalize an outfit. She might also be the type to dress for male attention; knowing that she has certain curves which she should show off. Regardless of her tactics, Pisces girl will usually have a feminine energy to her style. Pisces guy, like the fish in the sea, varies, either he is a total low-key slacker type, or "he actually knows how to dress for a guy." As swagged out as a fish might get, Pisces is often careless about how they live their lives, usually retracting into their own world where they become completely elusive to the other. The challenge here is the opposite of others signs, in that instead of giving up control, Pisces needs to find some. I challenge Pisces to set a life goal (big or small) and stick to it. Whether this means going running for 20 minutes every other day or getting stuff done on time, it is essential that you search for some form of organization. This will be difficult for some fish. The challenge here could also be to cut back on an addiction, whether that be solo drinking on a Tuesday night, chain smoking or engaging in various, meaningless sexual liaisons -- it is really imperative to trace these addictive behaviors and see if you can make any grounds for change. This is all preaching, true, but even so Pisces won't be one to act on these changes, (however they might be the one giving you excellent advise on how to change your life.) They might agree, they might talk a lot of talk, but in truth they will be hypocritical at the game. Excellent at dishing it out, but horrible at taking it in. Try a dose of your own compassionate medicine for once and see where it gets you, but no, really, FORCE yourself to try!
When tragedy strikes, people tend to get a bit preachy, so I apologize in advance for the preachy "challenge yourself" crap horoscopes. Really, if anything, tragedy teaches us to enjoy life while we can. The future isn't necessarily in our hands -- we live on earth, and earth will determine the fate of our natural environment, and ultimately our lives. No matter what personal goals we set, or what we want, anything can change on a dime. In an eye blink, your life could end at any moment, so if there is something you want to do or something you want to change, do it now, this is the time, the only thing that you have for certain is this moment, so relish it. If you want some candy -- eat it. If you like someone -- tell them. Don't waste your time torturing yourself with pains of the past. The Look ahead to a greener pasture of good things to come, and the positive spirit within yourself, which is going to carry you there.

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Tuesday, March 1, 2011

The Fear: "I Just Don't Want a Girlfriend Right Now."

 Likely you have been put in the situation where you meet a guy (whom you are wildly attracted to), party with and often end up in bed with. You seem so perfect for each other in so many ways but despite the connection you sense the fear of commitment. No matter how many times you may have tried to cut him off (or how many times you tell yourself that your not looking for commitment either) he winds up back in your life. All the while you keep wondering, is this going somewhere? Instead you might find him saying those eight special words, "I just don't want a girlfriend right now." Yes, there are usually eight because the RIGHT NOW part is an indicator that one day he will want a girlfriend but it probably won’t be you. There may be several other indicators involved in this statement, which may honestly have nothing to do with you. When your friends say, “you could do so much better”, they really mean, in no way, shape or form would you two ever make sense as a real couple. In a playful world, he could either be The Dog Type, which is the guy who never feels his right to check out other women should be taken away. He is the kind of guy who will fuck around until one day he  meets who he feels is the closest thing to "the perfect girl" and gets married. He will get married but will likely be the kind of guy who needs to have his ego stroked, and will hit on other women, and flirt with other women, and is not unlikely to cheat. He will likely be the guy who makes it clear to you that he finds you attractive. The type of guy who says things like, "I never do things like this but I just feel this connection with you." The guy who messages random hot chics on facebook and tries to spark a flirtation because he is bored in his current domestic situation. He never really wanted to commit and therefore will spend his life conjuring up conversations with other women. 
Secondly, there is the hurt guy. He literally wears his heart on his sleeve, he might even fuck around, and a lot, but emotionally he is dead to you. He thinks all women are capable of evil and heartbreak and he is not ready to show any form of emotional commitment. He's scared of getting hurt again and brings his baggage into his relationship with you. Sociologists says men are the first to fall in (I'm skeptical of this part) and the last to fall out. So it makes sense that hurt guy will have a hard time opening up again after getting his heart smashed the first time he trusted in love. He will remain hurt guy until that special 'cure in the sack' comes along and fucks him back to life.
Then there is the asshole, he might think you are cool, but mainly you are a piece of ass to him. As horrible as it sounds, he really doesn't see things beyond that, or at least not with you, though he is attracted to you and enjoys spooning you in the wee hours of a drunken/hung over snuggle. He's not the type to answer text messages and won't keep a steady rapport going with you though he pops up at unexpected hours of the night. The fear can be found in all types of men, some simply don't want to settle for having one, others just can't be alone at certain times (when they are horny basically). Though in many cases, they don't necessarily believe that they have to make one choice. I met a guy who openly told me about his three girlfriends -- he just doesn't believe in having just one and oddly or not found women who were okay with this concept. 

Regardless, here is a quick astrological take on how ‘the fear’ might occur in each star sign. 

Aquarius ( January 20 –February 18) 
He says the sweetest things or sends you the best texts, words illustrated in a way to paint your face with a smile, but he's surrounded by women, either of the past or present nature. He is never without attention, and won't give you the direct responses that you crave. The sexual connection will be well matched but emotionally he will be a confusing cross word puzzle with no answers. You're attraction to him may be paramount but if you have reason to suspect your not the only one or that this 'isn't going anywhere' -- it likely isn't. He won't give up the flirtation either. Aquarius has been known to pop back up with cute compliments and flirtations to females of their past even when they find someone to commit to. Aquarius, instilled with fear and doubt, is often left to let his mind roam even if he eventually becomes sexually committed to one woman. I reckon that many Aquarius men engage in affairs, are suspect of cheating and contribute highly to the divorce rate.
Taurus: (April 20-May 20
He won't let you know what he's thinking right away no matter who you are, but if he's keeping you around there is a reason for it. Taurus moves slowly but surely when interested though they are stubborn in their approaches and won't always give into the temptations of relationship island. They are simple in that they need to eat, sleep and fuck in no particular order (but all equal in priority of necessity.) They desire a relationship that provides these natures, along with a trust (as this is a highly jealous sign by nature.) Don't think that just because he's fucking you and 'hanging out' that's he's not into you. He might just want to cuddle, have sex and talk about the new LRG clothing he bought from a catalog. He's a simple man, and most likely won't string you along without some kind of interest, though he's afraid of giving up his animalistic tendencies. Don't fight him for control. If you do -- it won't end well. He's not going to do anything that he's not ready for so don't try to prompt him. He's more so the type to fuck you and never call, and then see you out somewhere drunk weeks later and tries again. If he's apologizing to you after a long 'no contact zone', don't fall for it, he's only acting out of selfish motives.
Aries (March 21 – April 19)
This is one of the worst case scenarios because even if you do get an Aries guy, it usually is quite short lived. He's better alone or at least that's what he thinks. There is a misogynist hidden in many ram men who feel their soul purpose with women is to dominate and control. They live to protect themselves from pain. They shield themselves from emotions and rarely tell anyone how they really feel. "I love you" is hard to come by. He may be a lot of fun but if he's not telling you how he feels or letting you take the reigns in terms of planning some aspect of your courtship -- he's just not that into it, and it will take a world-wind of  a woman to change this fearful Aries commonality. He's a man of infinite control, out for himself, and isn't likely to put you first (or before him) -- unless you are really special. He'll use you for sex or for whatever else he may "need" a woman for (and he won't be afraid to ask you to help out with his shit list), but he's not about to shift his universe to suite yours. If you got hurt by something he said or did, remember, it's not you, he'll likely be fucked up for a long, long time and no, you are not the culprit of this emotional damage. He was fucked from the very start.
 
 Virgo (August 23 – September 22)
This is the type to fuck with your head because he's not going to directly tell you to go away though he will drop hints of how he "doesn't believe in love right now." This is the sign of intelligence and reality, and because he doesn't butter you up on whim you'll find yourself trying so hard to get the validation. The non-committal types will string you along, Virgo hates to cut ties unless they absolutely have to. They love attention, and will get it from a variety of different suitors, even if this means desperately texting an old girl mate to get some late night flirtation. Because they have natural feminine energy they fight to be more masculine than they are, when in truth they are really Mama's boys. This is the type to fuck and flirt with anything until they find what they feel is "the perfect girl." Virgo is on the path to perfection so if you feel like there is reason to question his intentions and desire -- then there is -- move on, he's never going to move out of the neutral mode, and he won't stop criticizing/sizing you up in the meantime, no matter how good the sex might be.
Sagittarius (November 22 – December 21)
  The trouble here is he needs a lot of stimulation and adventure. He can easily move 'on to the next' if you don't strike his fire. He can be the ultimate player because he's charming and likes to be hospitable to the ladies. Have you not noticed how GREAT he is to your hot friends? He loves attractive women but isn't as coy about it as he should be. You might think he's 'too good to be true', but in reality he's not true at all. He's on the path of self-pursuit and wants to feel like the man of the hour. He might even remind you of what a big deal he is, which is really code for small penis syndrome. He might hide behind his success or his past relationships because he's "sooooo busy with work" and can't see you. This is bullshit as you make time for what you want to make time for. Sag will simply hide from you, in every aspect( except sexually) because opening up, in a true, true, no bullshit form is very difficult for him. You might want to try challenging him -- though if he's all over the map -- he's just not into it. He's busy, sure, but "busy" here is a simple exaggeration for,  "I like the attention but I'm just not that into the idea of us."
Gemini (May 21-June 20)
Air signs are the worst, especially mutable air signs like Gemini who LOVE women and surrounds themselves with female attention. He might be that guy who feels the need to stroke the back of every woman he talks to, but his attention span is shorter than an ADD child. He can't help but notice the attractive women who are roaming about because he's not always capable of limiting his attention to 'just one girl.' He can't let you go though, if he's into you, in some regard, he'll want to keep the attention of you, and that other girl, and that other girl etc. If he gives you false commitment he can be prone to cheating especially if he hasn't mentally matured. Young Gemini is so attracted to beauty he wants to soak himself in it. The moment you cut him off, he'll come running back because behind his "i'm so fucking awesome" stance is a very insecure young lad who secretly needs the validation of everyone. If you give it to him too much he'll turn a cold shoulder (or the ugly side of his two sided head), he may have you around, but won't feel like he can't abuse you because he knows he has you. Though the moment you remind him of his tacky ways, he'll be trying to get back into your good graces, is it too late? You be the judge, but prepare yourself for a lot of games, especially of the mental nature. Gems needs a mental connection to propel the sexual connection and this occurs in any case, unless you happen to go home together one night after the bar. Drunk gem isn't mentally responsible for his actions -- he's already moved on, but in the moment feels he needs a woman to make him feel complete. I recently met a 67 (though he looked 40) year old Gemini man who said that he is married with two kids, and if he could go back in time he wouldn't do all over again. He's selfish, and he wants to travel the world and drink wine, and talk to women. 
 Libra (September 23-October 22)
He may seem so sweet, so charming, and of such a good and peaceful nature, but if he's feeling the fear, you will soon feel the shock of his resistance. He'll be everywhere (like the Peter Pan type we've described in previous blogs) but he won't be asking you to join him on his flights. In fact he will need distinct separation from you, whether that be jamming on his bass for hours at end or spending countless amounts of time with his stoner/video game buddies. Regardless he will avoid you, and avoid any form of emotional conversation. The option for it won't even be on the table, and you will fear having the "where is this going conversation" because you know what he will say. He will lay down some hippy bullshit of how he doesn't believe in labels and that things should evolve naturally and without manipulation. He'll turn it around on you so that you feel like the bad guy for even asking in the first place. You make him feel weird emotionally and this fear will be unmatched because he won't be the same to you after that. The moment he knows how you feel or that you are trying to own him, he will separate himself from you, in such a distinct way that you feel like you two are oceans apart. He will be attracted to beauty of all kinds, and like all air signs he will flirt on the side. Like Lil' Wayne he likely wishes he could fuck every girl in the world, but he won't necessarily act on it. His eyes wanders -- his eyes may always wander, and if it's wandering a little too much then let that be a sign to you.



Capricorn (December 22- January 19) 
Like most earth signs the Capricorn wants to build upon a solid love relationship, which is why YOU WILL KNOW if this is going somewhere. He's not the type to dabble and if he does, he's really not the right Capricorn for you. He is born with the ability to commit, and he's not the type to take too long to get over past heartbreaks because he craves the stability of a solid, compassionate and trust inspired relationship. He'll be a dick to you if he's not interested. He'll make fun of you and try to mean it. He won't answer texts. He'll cancel plans. He'll ignore you completely and then pop back up (typical of any man really) but he's got a need to be in charge. Because he's so set on having a relationship, he might even commit to you, but will come on strongly to other women behind your back. Telling them things he can get away with because he's "got a girlfriend." He'll be one of those, "I never do this but, I'm just so attracted you" types. You may fall for it, but if he's doing this to you when he's with someone else, why would he suddenly change his suite? He's a bad seed -- move on. Though, I know you can't because the attention makes you swoon, and your addicted to male attention, eh? 
Scorpio (October 23 –November 21) 
Well for those watching the Bachelor it should be telling enough, but for those who haven’t been watching this crap TV show, this means, blatant trust issues, and the ability to woo any woman to wonders – three at a time if needed. Scorpio doesn’t know how to let another person in with wholehearted trust, which is why you will question his true desire to be with you. The fear here is constant, you might actually find yourself afraid of him, and his ability to hurt you so shrewdly without him even knowing it --without him even thinking that he's done anything wrong. He's just being him? Chill, right? So wicked when he wants to be, Scorpio will pull the wool over your eyes because his first instinct is to trust himself and only himself. Any person who tries to take control of this will be bitten, but don’t be surprised if there is a trail, which follows because they are impossible to get rid of. Possessive by nature they still own you, like ghosts if you don’t disentangle quickly -- they will haunt you. His level of “commitment” may never be on the same level of yours if he’s showing these signs of distrust, resilience and self-indulgence. 
Pisces (February 19 – March 20)
He’s a slippery slim ball because he is the type to make you his girlfriend, even if he still has “the fear.” Charming Pisces knows how to flirt and knows how to come back into your life at unexpected moments – they are super hard people to stay mad at if you care for them. In his case he has a way with words and text messages, you just think he makes you feel like a million dollars, but he’s too fucking wishy-washy to fit you into his planner because he doesn’t have one. Which is why when he needs you, his persistent as fuck nature won't allow you to say no, though you'll regret it the moment you do (more like the moment after because let's face it you gave in to the sensual temptation).  If Pisces wants to make you a part of their agenda, trust me, they will. They will find ways to make you want them even if that means berating shirtless pictures of himself on the internet. They need the validation and aren’t afraid to go fishing for it. If this fish guy isn’t trying to make you apart of his retro, hip, 'too poor to buy a clock' water world time –you’ll know it. Otherwise keep swimming you might find yourself a Starfish.
Cancer (June 21- July 22) 
When he’s not looking for a relationship he has the ability to be quite the brat. He knows how to push buttons and he will push them. He hates on stupidity of any kind, and will shower himself in women if he feels like he is not in a place to take one seriously. He doesn’t do well “alone” so you might find yourself doing things outside of your casual dating comfort zone, but if he’s not prepared to meet the same demands on your end, he’s not prepared to give you the best of him. Cancer, like the bane of most water signs, craves true love companionship and the comfort of a true relationship, which why they may play the field at time, but inevitably it’s all apart of a selection process. He’ll do whatever, say whatever, but none of which is destine to impress you, and likely this will only make you more interested. The crabby ‘I don’t give a fuck’ attitude isn’t code for I love you, it’s code for see you later or whenever I feel lonely again.
Leo (July 23 - August 22)
He's not a bad guy, in fact, generally he hates to play the bad guy role, but if he's feeling the fear you're going to feel his resilience. For one, you will notice that he puts his friends before you in a big way. Leo has strong loyalty, and if that doesn't mean showing loyalty to the leading lady in his life -- he will stick his neck out for his friends on the regular. You will not come second to his friends because in this case the contrast between first and second is too great to distinguish chronologically. He's more likely to sleep with you and never call again, or to sleep with you and then call again, but only at a time, which works best for him and doesn't indicate that he planned it. It will usually be at the end of the night when he is done hanging out with his friends, and don't expect an invite to that party. He's the type of guy who will only show off what he deems worthy and worthy of him. If this doesn't include you he will not be inviting you out for beers with the guys. IF he does however, invite you out with his friends well, that's an entirely different story...but don't think for a second that he's not judging your performance. 

*Remember none of this is necessarily true. Astrology is just for fun, and yeah, yeah, yeah these insights could apply to anyone, so take it lightly, or don't take it at all --it's not meant to irritate anyone, and no you don't have to believe in any of this.