You're Gonna Wish You Never Had Met Me: Is Love the New Hate?

It is likely that many, if not most of you, have that one ever-hanging skeleton in your closet that almost never seems to go away. You may have tried to literally break the bones of this structured ghost , but yet their irritating memory doesn't seem to fade. This is the person you wish you never met. Perhaps someone who hurt you in a short span of time or possibly someone you've truly loved for a long time. This is the person who you feel you "could have had it all" with, but yet there was always something or someone in the way. Often or not, we are addicted to the person who doesn't give up the validation we desire or deserve. The rejection, the drama and the thrill of the monkey chase becomes an obsession of its own: how am I going to get you? 

It is a newly entertained speculation that hate is the new love. Have you ever found yourself completely fixated on someone who was never going to give you what you wanted? Perhaps even someone who wasn't even truly worth caring for? In your mind you created this surreal connection, which you felt couldn't be topped by another human being? Only to find it's just that you won't let it. You won't let the memory die because you feel like you'll never be heard -- and you may never be heard. It depends who are dealing with. Read the horoscopes below to see how your man/woman might deal with you astrologically. KEEP IN MIND THAT THE RELATIONSHIPS YOU SEEK TO ENGAGE IN, INDIRECTLY REFLECT HOW YOU FEEL ABOUT YOURSELF.

 For example, your really confident and outgoing friend, who is in the "perfect relationship" is not lowering her personally high standards for anyone. He/she knows what they deserve and are not settling for less. If you find yourself going after the guy/girl who doesn't give you a inch it is likely because you don't value yourself enough.  Why else would you endure crap? If you chose to, this will make it easy for that said person to take advantage of your personal feelings. This comes into play in friendships too. Sometimes we seek certain friends because we can control them, because they will worship us and most importantly because they fill a void, which we lack within ourselves. Figure out what's most important in order for you to actually self-develop into the person you want to be, apart from anyone else.

Figure out what position you take and what you can an cannot handle. For example, not everyone was meant to play the field, but yes, some can. There are people who simply bring out the worst in others. If you find yourself acting out of character or doing things, which are beneath you, ask yourself how healthy or beneficial is this person is in your life? There will always be that one person, whether it is an ex, a passionate crush or a person who never gave you the time of day, and no matter how exciting these feelings may be, at one point you will find yourself wishing that you had never met this person to begin with! Why? Because no matter how great they were for how long, they were never truly a benefit to your life nor were they capable of seeing the best in you. Yet they still managed to get the best of you, right? Or they left you with a pile of crap that you're not prepared to deal with. The person who does the hurting is the person with the most power, initially, but don't be a victim of unrequited love, take it back. How do you achieve this? Time. Time is a bitch, but she's the only thing true in this world you can count on. When disaster strikes, one can be assured knowing that in a matter of time, destruction will repair, no matter how many fragments or bruises or scars or sad video documentations are left to keep reminding you. There is a letter of love through all the pain, you just have to let it find you, don't go looking for it. You will never find it this way.  You might even touch it, you might know it already, but you'll feel the key turn in the lock when you BELIEVE the true rhetoric of your own bullshit. This is the part that takes time. If you pretend for a second that you are another person, someone else, other than you, than you likely have the BEST, most profound, intelligent advice to give yourself, but you can't take it. At least not right now, and there is nothing wrong with that. As long as you are aware of your own trek and the distance you still have to make up for.

As this blog likes to stress, Fall is a relationship month, but it is also a time for the self to seek a sense of personal appeasement. HOROSCOPE TIME:

AQUARIUS: (January 20-February 19): You might just be the person that plenty of people wish they had never met. Go figure. You are a natural born charmer who can woo the best of them. Even so, you are the most likely, out of any sign to stay in good company with your past lovers. Aquarius exercises the element of friendliness to the best degree. If there was something attractive, which they saw in you initially, they likely still see it or will see it again. Aquarius is multi-faceted and will be attracted and un-attracted to certain people for various reasons, but on the whole front they want to be as cordial as possible. This is usually the case if AQ have the ability to play the field and jerk various people around without any capacity for consequence. AQAQ can become an entirely different, grounded and emotionally invested person who will not surrender the best interest of their partner. If AQ got away from you, it might be hard to get over, they are everywhere, attractive, charming and don't give a fuck (like seriously why are they so un-phased by you right?) Aquarius is in their own unique world and not likely to succumb to your needs for validation. They are going to have fun, without or without your sulking face lingering in the corner. If you do something wrong or display something, which could be perceived as deal breaker, they known almost automatically that they won't date you. This isn't to say that they won't fuck you or spend time with you, but let it be know, AQ is the master of the one night stand.  They are only committed sexually if they are truly mentally attracted and will know by your actions, whether or not you are a suitable partner. This is why they are very capable of having a one nighter or a fling, they are wise enough to know that once is enough. If they do come back for more, they will only complicate things emotionally, and if AQ isn't into you, they want play and passion, but they don't want enemies. Don't read into their charming ways, they can't always help them, and don't worry, in time you likely won't feel the wrath of AQ, but you'll have to get over it first because sometimes AQ is easily loathed from an EX perspective because they usually move on fairly quickly, and usually to better.

TAURUS (May 20-April 20): You won't forget this person if there is one and you are likely still in their life to some degree. The bull often takes possession of the heart (of you) in relationships and they don't like to give back anything for free. They will take it all if they can. You likely have some kind of weird hold on your EX. Either this, or you can easily revert back to your own personal feelings about the relationship. Taurus is very stubborn in their emotions and while they might forgive, they don't forget. They will bestow kindness upon you or fuck off completely and they make it very clear, publicly that they are not happy to see you.

If Taurus feels someone got away, they won't go away, if they experienced real feelings with someone, Taurus can distract, but they can't initially let go. If Taurus is the one who got away from you, there might be a lot of "shit, they are so fucking great", and yeah, they probably are. Taurus people are phenomenal and exceedingly loyal, grounded and dependable people to have in your life, but their needs are simple and extravagant at the same time, if you don't meet them, they won't give you the run around. Try as you might to get over the bull, if they are running circles in your brain, it is likely because they are not coming back. Unless, they loved you, if they loved you, it's only a matter of time until the question of reconciliation presents itself. The bull will just need time to get their affairs in order. Earlier I said Taurus doesn't go away, and this is especially true if they think they love you. They will fuck you and be your best friend, until finally you see, it was fucking meant to be!

PISCES (February 19-March 20): You won't stop thinking or daydreaming about this person, let alone chatting away about them. Sometimes it feels to anyone who listens with a willing ear. You secretly crave resolution and harmony with everyone so it kills you when people retreat in time and inner solace. You might go a little psycho when you do have it bad for someone, but your intentions are rarely in the wrong place. You have a feisty side, so Pisces girl is especially likely to get fresh if someone is infringing upon her territory. They also have a hard time letting things go because Pisces is very likely to blame them self for whatever went astray. They are also more prone to experience their own abuse through others and put up with a lot of unholy circumstances. It almost has to happen to someone else (by the same person) in order for them to see how shitty someone is.

If Pisces is the one that got away, I'm sorry. They don't like to make enemies with anyone, if they can help it. Even though, there will always be a few, distinct personality types that Pisces will never truly mix with. This being said, Pisces will string you along, play mind games and still entertain you in a sexual nature. Pisces has a highly addictive personality and sex is usually one of them. If you had good sex with a Pisces, they will want to come back for more. Even if they know you are no good or not good enough. They also want attention from the opposite sex -- and go back and forth a lot when they are lonely. Meaning they will weigh the pros and cons and consider you again if they are in a desperate position. It is not rare for a Pisces to work it out with someone from the past when they feel ready. There is a very child-like essence to the Pisces, sometimes they live like Peter Pan and never want to grow up. They might reject normal relationships for the fear of missing out on the excitement. It's like they want someone but they don't want to be tied down in an annoying "we're a couple" kind of way. Pisces needs to learn that they will never get what they want until they truly value them self. Dwelling, never got the fish anywhere, but if you're simply looking to make peace with your past Pisces, validation from others is highly important to them so you will likely get the solace you crave. Either that or it will be so very obvious that Pisces wants nothing to do with you, let alone look at you. You will feel the disdain and unspoken messages in the room, especially upon the dance floor.

GEMINI (May 21-June 20): As stated before, Gems are not big on dwelling on people from the past, but because they attract so many suitors, there is likely someone who they will shoot daggers at or who will shoot daggers at them. The daggers come from Gemini if it was someone who didn't give them the attention they desired. This or they will just work harder in order to get it. The role of," the one who got away", is more likely for Gemini, but the one who didn't value Gemini is unfathomable, and therefore Gem will makes that person feel small with cheap insults and shitty, self-indulgent banter. Gemini is the king/queen of drama, maybe they didn't even ask for it and become a victim of it. Maybe they started it or maybe they are just involved in other people's drama. This will consume Gemini if they let it. Gems are usually very charming (or very fucking quiet and weird) so if they are the one that got away, you won't necessarily understand why things went wrong. They said all the right things. They made all the right moves.

 Geminis are very flirtatious and like to have opposite sex situations occurring, but they are also very capable of stringing along a few prospects at the same time. It really just depends on where their head is at, if they aren't up for a relationship or ready for commitment it will show BIG TIME. She just may not be able to handle how many chic friends you have just as he may not understand how tight you are with all the guys. Gems are great at using their style and attractiveness to get what they want. At times they may even play dumb in order to create emphasis to their physical beauty, but be careful because the Gem is very wily and clever at the core. They have a way of getting what they want somehow, they just have to learn how to not listen to the self-destructive twin.If they want to work their magic, they will.

SAGITTARIUS (November 22-December 20): You try your best to love em' and leave em', you try even harder to invest little emotions at the risk of protecting yourself, but when you fall hard, and let go of someone who could have had it all with -- you treat the relationship exactly like a competition, and as stated before, Sag hates to lose. Sag needs to look at these love losses as means for self gain, open up more, take even more risks and see where it gets you. Come out of that shell, which is surrounded by familiar adventures and people and see the world in a new light. No one is tallying up your loses, except for you, everyone sees your ability to win and win well. You're an amazing friend and a hard worker and deserve the  glory days. 

Sag is the dictionary definition of a player in that they love the game, and love to play in general. This doesn't always mean playing other people, but if they got away from you, they likely had game greed on the mind. They likely took the best exit to win because as stated earlier, they don't lose. Sag is the big boss player, and even if he/she pulled out all the stops, emotionally they are capable of coveting and won't be affected when they flee. You will be though. You will harp on their selfish nature and curse at how you still see them every where, and can't escape the memory of their flamboyant seduction. They charm naturally, but if rebuffed, will feel defeated. They don't like to be the person who is not calling the shots. If you try to cut Sag, they won't feel comfortable about you, but at the same time they might wish that you two were cool. They won't want you around and they won't know how to express how they truly feel towards you, which is likely just a mind-numbing state of awkwardness for the emotionally challenged Sag.

CAPRICORN (December 21-January 19): You like Taurus won't eliminate the one who could be getting away, you will stomp them when they least expect it. Capricorn has a natural sense of sensibility to them, which makes them appear calculated and old-fashioned. In reality, they have the ability to be wild, simply they need to meet the right person who will bring this out. If someone got away from Capricorn they will likely need to move on with someone else, almost instantly, or retreat in denial and obsession of the past and stay single for lengthy periods of time. Capricorn is not prepared to lose validation from anyone, if they feel entitled to it, they will get it. IF you have been burned by a Capricorn, don't expect them to come back. They will stick around until they are absolutely sure they are done with you. They might even come back at some point, in a ghost-like fashion, but the moment they say they are gone for good, they mean it. Their actions and words will be direct and to the point. Capricorn will only give sugar when they want to and this can't be forced. They love to please others and do well in creation, business and service, but they can't be forced into anything. He has the ability to be the biggest fucking asshole if charged--and she will throw down if you come at her. Capricorn might seem innocent, but fucking push their buttons and watch them blow up. They can hold down in a fight if they need to because they are pretty sure that they "know better". If Capricorn doesn't appear to be a sincerely good person, don't be concerned with getting their goodbye blessing, move forward, in time, you'll see how it didn't matter to begin with.

SCORPIO (October 23-November 21): The one that got away is likely in your bed right now as you read this. The reigns of a Scorpio are very tight, and once emotionally invested Scorpio finds it really hard to get out. In turn, when you are caught in the Scorpio trap, it is super hard to flee. You've likely been in and out of each other like a figure 8, which always seems to lead you back to each other, in the center of all your crap. Scorpio has a really hard time getting over someone they cared for, they will move on super slow, slug-mode or not at all. If Scorpio had a very long, serious and intense relationship (like Scorpios often do) it could take centuries for a true and successful detox to occur. They may be able to have crushes, but sexually they are an emotional sign. Meaning he/she will either fuck and fuck a lot to soften the pain, or he won't even be able to get it up because he's so emotionally pent up. She'll just concern herself in the sex lives and problems of others, but pursue nothing for herself (which she takes to heart) simply because she isn't over the past and is super independent. IF Scorpio got away and they aren't coming back to you, don't try to win them over. They are the master of NOT WRITING BACK, avoiding emotional conversation they don't trust you enough to engage in, and they will ignore you. This isn't to say they haven't thought about you. They are probably thinking about you none-stop, they just can't engage conversations, which require emotional commitments they aren't capable of. They don't know what to tell you. They are jealous but they cannot deal with jealousy. Though known as the wicked sign of the zodiac, which you don't want to cross, Scorpio usually has a very loving, passionate and understanding nature about them. They probably want the best for you and in time may even become a friend OR a very hated enemy who makes you feel awkward because they LOOK at you, but yet, SAY NOTHING.

CANCER (June 21-July 21): If you are the one who got away, Cancer won't forget you, they will play you like a bad track on repeat-- they will take you into the shell. They might even move on, but they will move on with the ghost in their emotional backpack, simply because Cancer finds it so hard to be alone and Cancer loves to self-destruct--even if this means playing the records of the past on repeat. They thrive in relationships and therefore get over their pasts within their private shell or through intense excursion, or new flirtation. Cancer is a very emotional sign, so if someone they adored got away, then it may take a very long time to truly move on. The coin is easily flipped here, however, as Cancer can be so needy, and desperate to protect someone of the opposite sex, they may just rush back into a relationship (of some kind) simply because Cancer is shit when living in complete solitude even if 'alone' is a place where they often retreat. Cancer has maternal/paternal instincts, which cannot go ignored, therefore they feel the need to have someone they can sincerely care for and share life with. Without that Cancer becomes very moody and uninspired. They like Pisces, need a lot of reassurance and with these signs, it often can't come from within, which is why they crave a partner and true love to the extended degree, which they do. These signs will achieve this easily, but they need to deal with the emotions from the past, which are blocking them.

If Cancer left you, it's because they were the one worth leaving. They make amazing partners when they love you truly, and if they don't, they can be shady, bitchy, unresponsive and un-affectionate. It's not entirely all or nothing, but you'll be able to tell if he/she is not happy with you. The moods of a Cancer are ever-changing but very sincere in their execution. Cancer will stick around until they are through, and they might just stick around so long that it makes you even more pissed when they left, but spare yourself, a crappy cancer is a kick in the junk, you don't want any part of it!

LIBRA (September 23-October 22): You need to re-direct your focus, you are likely the one who got away for many. You're not really the type to sit and pine over one person. You'll move on because for you, relationships should bring joy and not drama. You want to enjoy life to the fullest and if people try to bring you down with their emotional BS, pain or suffering (caused by you), then you are more likely to straight out ignore it and peace. You can't help it if you're living an awesome life, you do what you what, right? Wrong! Libra, as much as you'd like to think, life is not all play and jokes. Sometimes you actually have to step up to the plate and be emotional. Emotional, Libra will be if you got away from them, they aren't often in the position of caring or even giving anyone their sole, true and entire commitment. Libra is charming and lovable, but they aren't likely to give you everything that you want right away because they are too busy weighing out the scales of other prospects. Libra is capable of having more than one pursuit, crush or sexual interest at the same time. Sex can just be play for the Libra, they are capable of removing emotion from the equation and will do this, but don't be surprised when they don't want anything. Some people under this sign cannot be held down, by anyone, and the moment you try, you will be rebuffed. If you go along for the flight you might get something out of it in time, but it won't be storybook, it will be interesting and if you are lucky, so fucking worth it!

LEO (July 22-August 22): You might be so hard-pressed by the one who got away that you never truly loved again with the same, open sincerity. I know a Leo male who fell in love at 12, got hurt, and never opened up again. For some, especially for a king or queen like character, the pain to the pride can be too much to bear. For her, she might just stalk the fuck out of you until you either start worshiping her again or try to plot her fictional murder. Leo is a tough one because they love very intensely, meaning that if they love you, they want to take it to the next level. Ask any Leo, they have dated a lot of people, and not in a dry, lame manner, but in a passionate, loving and memorable fashion. If Leo go away, it can be hard to get over, simply because most Leos look so good on paper. There are certain qualities that good Lions have, which are hard to forget, and you could just totally see you guys together OMG.

IF Leo is a dick, they are a huge dick. They will be so invested in their own ego that they will step on you if they need to. They are flaky, remember this, and if he/she is not into you expect to be flaked around. If Leo puts their mates before you, it's honestly because they aren't that into you. Simple, twisted and weird to say, but likely true. Leo is fucking loyal but if you don't feel a sense of loyalty from them, move on. If they are into you, you'll know it. The make all the right moves and treat you with the same respect, which they demand back. Never mind, you have to respect Leo a bit more, naturally.

ARIES (March 20-April 19): You're not the type to let anyone get away with a true concern and even if they do, and it bothers you, you won't let people know. You don't want to be that person, to anyone. You're need for control prevents you from being weak about matters of the heart because you won't let the opposite sex see you vulnerable. You have to hustle as an Aries, you have to be self-involved and focused. If anyone interferes with this-- they won't stick around. Aries is stubborn so if they aren't interested in you anymore, you will know it. They will flat out ignore you (even if they expect YOU to come to them in the first place). They will be mean to you. They will argue with you. They will be bitch you. They won't make time for you. They will fuck your best friend. They will do whatever, in order to let you know that they are no longer interested in you. Aries does not let people in easily, so good fucking luck if you like them and feel insecure about it. Good chance is that this insecurity arose with good reason, considering that if Aries were truly into you, you'd never doubt it. If Aries is hard done by (especially if Aries has been hard done by in his past life), they too will have a hard time coming back from this because this almost never happens to the ram. Aries, is rarely the person who is heart broken, because they keep their heart under steel plated glass, they don't open themselves up to getting hurt. If society were to take a poll I wouldn't be surprised if it stated that a vast majority of Aries found their true love, a lot later in life. In this case the suppressed anger will be hard to deal with. Maybe he punched the new guy you are with, maybe you've gotten some seriously evil looks/competitive jabs from her, but at the same time, it's likely Aries will play the friendly card, and fuck your head over. Why let you know I ever care? Aries is no body's puppy dog and not about to give you that kind of validation ever. Aries has a sense of self-worth and isn't about to suspend this for anyone.

VIRGO (August 23-September 22): You are likely the one who got away, but you have a knack for coming back. Virgo doesn't know when they are done. They have a gambler mentality and will weigh out the pros and cons of a given relationship until they are blue in the face. The Virgo doesn't make sudden move, they calculate, they think before they move, before they speak, and before they execute. They might be holding their phone in the air, with their finger on send, contemplating whether or not they should message you. Keep in mind if Virgo left you, it's because they can't give you what you want. If you start to act too lovey-dovey or available, Virgo will freak and need space. They can't do stereotypical love. Stemmed from a critical nature, they react well to the truth and won't be easily wooed. They want your attention but they want the attention of other things,  and if they got away, they will only want your attention when it suites their own personal needs. If you got away from Virgo, they won't forget about you. You will stay forever in their mind and they will pine over you, they might make subtle moves to get you back, but Virgo doesn't like to take chances on things they can't control the outcome of.

IF they know you are 100% down for them at any given time then they will use this notion as a get-out-of-jail-free card for the next time they need some loving, but don't get all pent up on what it means. Virgo will be the best fucking partner in crime/catch of the year if they are into you, but when Virgo isn't comfortable with them self they will self-destruct in a honest fashion, which will only fall poorly on you. Anything emotional Virgo is unprepared to deal with -- they will ignore. Never try to tell a Virgo their business. The best Virgo advice, is do fucking nothing until you hear from them. They need to know your gone in order for them to come back, and they will, but you can't make this too easy -- you have to realize that Virgo wants what they can't have, so be irresistible. If you truly need to talk it out or want to know where you stand, Virgo is likely to directly tell, Virgo is likely to respond because they don't want to burn bridges. Virgo has a voodoo that they do, if your not careful they will cast a sexy spell on you.

Trust always comes into play with the one who got away. The actions of that past person might make it hard for you to open up and realize that not everyone is going to dispose of you so quickly. Trust people, because if you don't, how do you ever expect to meet anyone worth being with?

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Summer of Scopes: Sex, Sweethearts, and Scandal.

 In all fairness, summer is also the season of sluts, but let me immediately preface by saying there are no negative connotations implied by the word "slut." In this case the word "slut" is not stigmatized by any double standard or cheap insult. Here, the word is only meant to reflect the idea of a person who is sleeping with numerous people at the same time. Among common folk, you might jokingly refer to yourself as a "slut" because you have been hooking up a lot lately, and with various people. There is also the "I'm going to slut it up this Summer" attitude and mentality, which people adopt. This is not necessarily a bad thing, and summer, coincidentally is a high time for hooking up. People often break up before the summer because the season symbolizes individuality, freedom and possibility. Summertime also means that people are wearing less clothes, partying more often (even during the week) and therefore prone to encouraging others to engage in feel good times and casual behaviors. This isn't to say that there can't be a summer love.

 

A lot of people meet in the summer and fall in love. The casualty of summer months provide a very non-threatening arena for two people to connect. The lack of pressure, which accompanies summer makes the natural element of love easier to take place and marinate in a chill setting. People do find romance in the summer months just as they do hook up randomly but either way, this is a time to enjoy the simple beauties of life. Summer sweethearts= a definite possibility. Summer EMO fest, also a possibility.

The summer symbolizes the ideology of things coming to an end but it also symbolizes the beginning of things. You might be trying to get over something this summer, something that made you very happy in the fall and winter months, but it's time to chill, sit back, sip a PBR outside in the sun and think-think-think about it until it burns, and you can no longer be fucked with it.  Let it spin and spin and spin until one day it will hit you like a light-bulb in your brain. Switch. You'll be over it. True, summer sometimes can feel like a scandalous time -- in trying to fix something that has gone broke, think of your past pain like something which you DRN, do not resuscitate it, let that shit die.

For some, it is the solo-dolo summer in which a person takes the time to 'do you' and enjoy their own life and personal interests. How you manage to carry yourself whether that be sloppy or sultry -- this ultimately is up to you. You define this for yourself. It's not the price on the pump, it's the integrity of the person and the true confidence of holding one's head up proudly -- not just in the scene or in front of others. Everyone should go out and do what they want but there is a level of class one should exude. Even dressing hot has it's limits. It's not a crime to leave something to the imagination, though that might be harder to achieve if it gets really nice out.

Summer together or summer alone, here are some horoscopes on how you might survive the heat with or without a bone: 

Aquarius (January 20-February 18)

 

If You are in a Relationship: This is your time. You've been through a lot and have possibly put up with a lot of shit in the past.You love to do fun, exciting and diverse things so you've likely booked it all already( if you have the money.) Some of you don't have the money. Perhaps a weekend away with the honey, some shopping, some serious traveling or a couple of cool art shows or concerts will suffice. The sky is the limit here. Aquarius is open to much. That being said,you might find your mind wandering a bit. This form of over-thinking and mental distraction is common in AQ. Don't be too cheeky and lead your partner to think you are disinterested when truly you are interested. Try to be less aloof and more attentive to your partner's emotional needs. Stop being afraid to let your guard down or maintain a image which is separate from your partner. You are witty but sometimes people question how it is that you really feel inside. In the past few years you've been tested, and have possibly let your guard down a lot more, but you fight the need to repel love and put the guard up for good. Now it is time to harness your true feelings and express them with sincerity. Getting hurt is a part of the living process and you can't experience anything real without this kind of pain-- so don't play yourself or the other. Be real. Think about what's really true in your heart and if there is actually anyone who manages to stick (beyond a physical attraction), focus on them. No Gameboy -- your getting too old for that shit.

If You are Single:Well you are probably a bit all over the place, overlapping into various emotions of intensity, but in a harmless way, don't worry no one is mad at you. Though I guarantee there is someone wondering where you have been? Or why you pop up suddenly and then disappear? You are a flirt but you don't even realize that when you call it off that the stakes of your play are still around--lingering in the heart's of others. You love the attention of an admirer a bit too much to brush off their validations or sexual gestures. Sometimes you are too friendly for your own good. Even if you don't put out, you play a mean hand, so watch true connection, but you are distracted and too obsessed with making this happen that will never happen sincerely. When you fall you fall hard, but lately you aren't finding one person who penetrates your heart. It's time to really figure out what you want or what it is that you hiding from or behind in order to meet love head on -- you can't fool a fool for too long, so stop playing.

Capricorn (December 22-January 19)

If You are in a Relationship: The summer is likely already mapped out for you and your SO. You've possibly planned a vacation, permitted by your very busy work schedule. You have things set in stone for you to look forward to. You might think you are laid back, but you are always working. You are a thinker and a times a bit of a perfectionist. You have a way with things, you have an order, and you wish others would take heed of this and do things your way! You don't like explaining yourself to anyone -- you don't like the people you care about to be unhappy. You like to remain capable. Sometimes you need to think of the needs of your partner and whether or not you are asking too much? Or whether you are caring too much for your partner without reciprocation? You should know by now how hard you work and how you need to be with a fellow worker Bee. Someone who has similar interests to you. Someone who is strong enough to challenge your need to be the boss. If you are a geek Capricorn you should seek a fellow geek who enjoys staying at home and watching DVDs or taking a zillion pictures with your expensive new camera. It's hard for you to change your ways, there is a stubborn streak here, so why fuck around with people who aren't on the same page. If you've discovered the person who provides these things then you are on the rode to a healthy, stable, and earthy relationships. Don't fuck it up by being moody or standoffish.

If You are Single: You aren't always the smoothest person with the opposite sex. You don't always read the messages you are dealt properly. You might give too much and get too little and act okay with that. You might try to serve others too much and end up feeling un-quenched. You need to play within your own limits because you may not even be aware of what they are, though once tested you will retreat. People want to see you and you should make an effort to do things you enjoy. Curl up to the person who you feel you can trust and who can make you laugh. If you meet someone who you can let your guard down with-- it is worth perusing. Sometimes you play things too safe and miss out on hot opportunities. Capitalize on your work and your own personal focus, but make time for someone who might be worth it.

Aries (March 21-April 19)

   

If You are in a Relationship:The hardest task for an Aries is to make solid time for their partner while still being able to fulfill self needs. Aries is a sign of the self and they set a lot of personal, life and work goals, which they feel obligated to meet. Aries loves, but they have limits for romance, they are very moved by the stress of making everything in their environment work together. They want to be the best at everything they do and won't show their partner/anyone weakness even if they are feeling life pressure to a intense degrees. Aries will want to control everything if they can, but in giving it up this summer, (which they should), they will find a solace between stress, summer and love. Aries is best when truly in love, but they still need to feel like their partner is an asset to them. They want and need the people around them to approve of their significant other. Social Aries is a charmer in the limelight and needs a partner by their side who brings out their charisma. Aries needs to be number one but this does not differ in their love life. They may engage with a lot of unworthy people until they find someone worth displaying publicly, but once they do, they expect praise and no negativity. TIP: If your still being all 'me, me, me, me' with your current partner -- he's likely not the one. Aries will be considerate of the other person's need when they are really in love, they will try to put their partner on a even playing field in this case.Sometimes they might even put their partner first.

If You are Single:You are likely congested somewhere in your heart. Your protective shell is getting too comfortable and while you might be having a lot of fun, flirting and playing the field, you feel incomplete. There are so many emotions, which you have surfaced. The bottled feelings, which only burst eventually and sometimes with Aries this go-to emotion is anger oppose to tears. Aries is more likely to get angry, frustrated and scream rather than cry or shed tears. This is a weakness, which Aries only considers worth sharing or doing at choice moments. Aries needs to know that they cannot control the pain that enters their lives. If they have been hurt they will likely be hurt again, it is time to remove the band-aide, lets scars heal on their own, and get ready to make new ones. You cannot find what you want without enduring pain, cliche but true, Aries needs to let go of whatever past string they are holding on to. They are capable of a lot of life enjoyment if they don't let little stresses irk them into a state or situation of disaster.

Gemini (May 21-June 20)

 

If you are in a Relationship:La-la land! Gemini is usually a split between being in La-La Land and being in hell, but then again, it depends on which side of the Gem face you are prone to wear. Gem might just lie to themselves, if they live in a mobile home they'll just tell people they live in a mansion. As long as Gem believes the lie --somehow it becomes true. In Your case, you could either be caught in a position where you've met the 'perfect guy' who loves you just a bit more than you love him and treats you just like how every girlfriend would want to be treated. Or you've met someone who you give everything to and get nothing back from. Maybe you never really tell your partner how you feel and often agree with him for the sake of being a 'yes' person. Or you're so into the drama that you pick fights and causes roars just to get some attention. There are so many options for this highly mutual and dynamic signs. One thing Gems are all guilty of is lacking the ability to empathize with others. Gemini can be a real bitch when they want to be, but they they need to stop looking at how situation affect them only, they need to think of the other, and how the other is feeling too. This will make communication go a lot better. Gem might be quick to notice the detailed flaws in others but they need to turn the camera back onto themselves and become aware of their own demises. They might not always realize the impressions they have on each other. The worst thing ever is a cocky Gemini, so even if you know that you sparkle and shine, keep it on the down -low, nobody wants to feel like a victim to your a superiority complex.

If you are Single:Trouble. Possible retirement and recluse behavior. A lot of planed adventure and photo taking. A lot of time with friends. A lot of action to fill the void of the Gem's emotional distraction. Single Gems doesn't really like to be alone so they surround themselves with people, parties and other places to travel and distract in. Gems need stimulation of the mind and the body -- so when seeking a partner remember to step away from your physical type run-to. The guy you likely end up with will be OK looking but really social, good in bed, extremely intelligent, witty, fun and fabulous. If Gem is more outgoing and less introverted -- they will need a partner who is just as down to play and play outside and shop and travel and do fun flamboyant things together. Gem also has high ideals about what they want so their partner needs to surpass many hurdles. Gem will try to motivate but might lose and must realize that their need to change their partner is a sign in itself that it wasn't right. You shouldn't have to work on changing the person you were meant to be with. Don't settle. Gems often do (they get antsy) and in truth, they can do a lot better (most of the time) if they just work on their patience. This is not always the strongest asset in any Gem. IF you make them too anxious they will move on. Insecure Gem will give you everything and take the little you give back. Over confident Gem will destroy the emotions of others when fickle, break hearts and be unfaithful.

Pisces (February 19-March 20)

 

If Your in a Relationship:It's probably blissful, with it's key moody moments, but it's great, if Pisces has surpasses all their usual hurdles in order to be with someone, well then, it has the potential to be amazing. Summer can be  a make-it/spend-it, alcohol induced, sexy sleepovers and late night outs for the fish who would rather not become boring when tied down. Fish, ruler of the feet, loves to dance, and would do well with a partner who is into music (beyond the radio) and enjoys to cut up a rug. Friendly fish make friends all the time, and is often popular with people (so their partner needs to be built of a non-jealous capacity.) This being said Pisces is hard on Pisces by nature and may find it hard to trust their partner. They will likely suffer from sensitivity issues, which might be confused for "crazy." Pisces own insecurity will be the fuel for their jealousy -- it won't necessarily be because Pisces doesn't trust the guy/girl. Pisces just needs a bit of validation, however if they are dating certain partners like Taurus, Virgo, Gemini etc. they have to realize they are not likely going to get these validations on whim. Certain people do not compliment others because they see it as a reflected weakness in themself. Other people do it to kiss ass, some people really mean it. For example, if  any of the above signs were to compliment, in spirit of their real nature, they likely mean it. Pisces needs to not give a fuck about this or anything. The moment they think they are great is the moment the love will bloom. People see pleasurable joys in Pisces, which Pisces doesn't always recognize, it is time to start seeing them, staring at them,writing them on your wall-- until you fucking believe it.

If You are Single: I think you learned that banging around really isn't the best for you. You like to bang but you like it more with someone you like, enjoy and are extremely attracted to. You need to not be fixed on the last 'wort thing/person for you eva' -- this again reflects your poor relationship with yourself. Yeah, some days you think you are great, but on others, you are full of self hate, regret, and thoughts about the past that never leave you. You wish you knew how not to care anymore, but the thing is you do. The moment you really get out of your problems and look at them from the outside in, and keep doing this, you might start to realize the reality of your situation. What are you fighting for? Eventually you might be able to become more objective about your own problems. Pisces boys -- behave! You know you have skills at buttering up chicks and getting buns, but just because you can't be alone, don't take an innocent bystander who you know you might leave in three weeks for another pair of buns. Also, Pisces, try not to be too impulsive these days, I know you can see how you are gradually getting older, but booze and bad moods can revolt Pisces into post sober regrettable trouble. Pisces is the old soul who is forever young -- they have a child like essence and are mistaken as younger than they are-- just don't take advantage of it. Don't abuse your own natural limits. DNR -- do not resuscitate. If the problem/person wakes you up on your own-- well that's a whole new world of trouble,but don't shake the branches of that old tree. Pisces, it is time to shake a new tree. Shake a new tree.

SAGITTARIUS (November 22- December 21)

 

 If You are in a Relationship:Most fire signs have a special thing for the sun. Yeah, everyone loves it, but Sag, Leo and Aries have a special place in their hearts for heat -- it makes them happy and provides them with a special stimulation that puts them in a great mood. This will be a good time to make something happened for a Sagittarius because they will be in a better position to endure it. Sag will want to practice their summer "sport" or activity like riding bikes, going for runs and getting into shape. Sag will also have adventures planned with the SO. I think it's important that Sag's partner not give them too much control. Sag wants to control but they also want to feel the sense of being take care of. Sag needs to know that it is okay to let go of their emotional control and let another person into their mind. If they are in relationship they should be kind to their mate, and not change their disposition towards their partner in order to suite social face. Who cares if people are watching? Sagittarius is a social sign who often can become a powerful source of popularity, social promotion and scene culture. They can get caught up in the stigma of how they should act according to the desires of others. They make act to be a lot tougher than they truly are. Show some vulnerability in your relationship and use your spontaneous side for good measure. Don't be selfish -- do something for the person in your life that you care about.

If You are Single: This is a playful season for the playful, fiery and adventurous player. Sag is a charmer, effectively confident and possibly stacked. The mind is on the money, but it's also on the honey. Sag has the ability to make romantic moves without putting true emotions behind them. They can work the summer into the best time of their lives-- where they obtain everything they desire. They like to take things emotionally slow so they don't scare people off--if anything other people scare them. They are down for the hunt, they like the chase, but the real deal is hard to be discovered here. Sag has perfectionist tenancies too -- they wont' really pretend to like anything they don't. They have an authoritative component to their game. They can't help being the boss by nature-- they play this role well-- and likely rock it at the office or in their social circles. They are competitive and love to win, so sometimes you will be just a challenge to them, sometimes your challenges will only turn Sag on more.

Libra (September 23-October 22)

 

If You are in a Relationship:You need to make sure you have your focus in the right place. If you are a Peter Pan type Libra it is likely harder for you to fixate yourself on solely the person you claim to love. Libra, as always, needs to find a sense of measure, but often does better with this lazy attitude towards commitment.  Watching Libra weigh out the scales can be tiring for their invested partner. If you are currently dating a Libra, don't overcrowd them, they always come back in their own time. Think of Libra like a colorful elastic band -- if you pull it, it will return. It can get really frustrating sometimes trying to put up and keep up with them. Libra means well, they just don't always know how to deal with certain emotional confrontations. They don't want drama. Their face and lack of words will say it all. They will tolerate it to a certain degree, but at the end of the day they want peace from the chaos of day-to-day stresses. It's also just that they are very distracted by so many other things, pretty things and tedious things which attract them constantly. Try to get yourself in some sort of a plan mode. Where you commit yourself to a few days with the SO or the like. Try to open your mind frame to the thinking of other people, every one has a unique way of doing things. Perhaps you should get on board with some alternative solutions to commitment.

If you are Single: Tucker to the Max. Granted some of you have read the book I Hope They Serve Beer in Hell and might catch this reference. No surprise the ultimate, gory and graphic player is a Libra. Try to limit your leisure to a acceptable degree. Don't go breaking hearts for the fun of it. Don't go into something with the foreseen notion that you are going to come out of it having left the other person destroyed. Try to find a balance within yourself that reminds you that nothing from the outside can bring you joy, unless you find an equilibrium within your own chaos. Don't take heed of Tucker Max's ideology and abuse the weak. As he coins insecure chicks are 'every man's meal ticket to pussy', well don't be fooled by this this toothless type. Libra has the ability to reel people in and then spit them out. Pick your prey carefully Libra. You can be a total fucking slug but when you really want to be you are a Mighty Python. Take heed to your victims and whether or not your sexual desires are worth risking friendship, reputation or the feelings of others. If you really think you could hook up with anyone, why not set your designs on a rare find? Libra is another sign that doesn't really enjoy growing up, but even in the summer, you have to become a bit aware of your self. If left astray you know how much trouble you are capable of getting in! 

Virgo (August 23- September 22)

If You are in a Relationship:It is time to value your partner a bit more than you claim to. Yes, some of you might be the world's best boyfriend/girlfriend as Virgo is a highly mutable sign (with the potential for some great finds), but for most, you are simply, too critical, too selfish and too rational right now.   Making fun of the person you love lost it's sentiment in grade 10. It's time to learn the art of expression.It's time to be a grown up and stop schooling others on lessons you don't practice. Either you are taking your SO for granted or you are constantly cutting them down (when they don't measure up to your high standards.) Sometimes your honest and direct approach isn't always admired and hits the feelings of others hard. Refrain from being negative about things because the negative is your go-to, and you know better. If your SO wants to go out and do something, do it with a smile on your face and not a sigh. Pose for that picture. You are a very hard worker when you want to be and you'll work even harder if you are getting the results you desire, but don't feel like your relationship is not worth the work. You need to feel like you are excelling at something. If you aren't getting the results you desire in your relationship, why stick? Sometimes Virgo is the sign who will use people until the advantage point has worn off. Don't be this person. Realize you aren't as figured out as you think and start to chip away at some of that internal, well disgusted self turmoil and destruction. You are good at something you just have to find it.

If You Are Single:Watch out! Virgo might not be a forward as Leo but they love attention just the same. There is almost a secret 'opposite sex' fetish. This summer I advise you to give up the chase. As much as you love it. You can't really say you want love if you run away from all the suitable people to date. Perhaps what you really want is drama. Virgo can be attracted to a partner who is more critical of them, and is more likely to response when they feel the need to be authoritative or correct someone. They hate authority figures on their own case however, so don't try to parent them. If anything they will parent you, flexing both their critical nature and anal tendencies. Virgo knows better, Virgo knows best.Virgo has possibly left something/someone very good for them in the dust, but their inability to see what they need is a direct reflection of their own need to develop alone as a self. Virgo needs to feel really confident on their own, they need to know they are better than you (and not question it) in order to let someone in emotionally. They need to know that they can do it without the crutch of another person.

Taurus (April 20-May 20)

If You are In a Relationship:Well then you are likely boring. Awesome but boring. When Taurus gets stable they get really predictable. They form excitement towards pre-planned dinners, romantic cooking sessions,weekends away or a shopping excursions. Taurus loves stuff, so if you want to surprise him/her in any way, surprises are the way to go. Taurus takes a long time to make solid moves and get over the past so if in a relationship you are likely moving at the same speed. A strong level of commitment without the over-weighing pressures. They are capable of just being -- they need -- and need sometimes too much, but they won't try to rush things, as long as certain demands are meant. Taurus is without question, one of the highest signs of control in the zodiac, they call the shots and usually have very high standards. It will be hard to please them constantly, but they need you to try. Taurus will work over-time for the person they love, but they do not want to feel rebuffed. They do not want to feel like they get so bothered by you, (but love you too much to bring it up.) Taurus is not a fool -- they will provide for you, but do expect a certain level of reciprocation. Taurus likes the best quality and this includes their friends, their clothes and especially their significant other.

If You are Single:You are probably doing everything and anything to make yourself feel good. Cute clothes. A new work out resume. The most fab friends and lifestyle. Only the best for the bull, and the bull will be the first to let you know just how good they having it. My advice for you Taurus is to stay a float. Taurus does not make big decisions quick. Your heart will know when it wants to invest in someone, but alternative thinking and discouraging won't help. Don't always feel like you have to fall back on a guy/girl, or that someone of the opposite sex needs to be texting you in order to feel adequate--'on my phone, on my phone, so no one think that I'm alone'. You won't find the right person that way. Taurus is ruled by the planet Venus (love and relationships) so they often crave partnership. They have the need to own the things they desire. They crave the need to truly trust in something. They prefer to being in a confident enough position to say, THAT'S MINE. Yes, you have a possessive nature to your sign, but you what you need first is you. If you can be and do you without a sexual/romantic distraction, then great, you are truly ready and capable of love. When Taurus gets to this stage, love will come easy and it will last. Taurus has the natural ability to make a relationship function for the long haul when they are invested. Also try to stay away from too your coy messages on the internet of subtle bragging and LOOK AT ME moments, it won't help the cause -- what's done is done -- it is time to look forward in a modest and classy way. Stop looking back! Do things for you, don't do think with the intention of affecting others with your actions!

Cancer (June 21-July 22)

If Your in a Relationship: Try to keep the mood up. Nobody likes it when you put on the sourpuss face. Don't get too predictable. Don't let shitty weather dictate how you feel. There is a planner/natural Mama hidden in most Cancers so try to arrange somethings to look forward to this summer. Smile lots. Don't go hiding in the shade. There are other people besides your SO who want to see you. Your commitment to your partner is adorable but also annoying. People truly love the single you. Not because you shouldn't be happy and with someone but simply because people want to see you, and when in love you tend to get very caught up. A part of you is probably itching for something outside of your current comforts-- so don't be afraid to venture out. Also, don't be afraid to embrace this attitude in your relationship. If things are starting to feel a bit safe? If you are starting to question things you were once sure about? It is time to stir up the pot a little bit. You are becoming safe and predictable and nobody likes that.We want to hear more from you.

If You are Single:Try to let emotions of the past go, put things into the bigger picture in order to see how you are only hurting yourself by focusing on these negative thoughts. Do right by yourself first. Don't distract yourself to the point of not being able to address the real concern. Make the effort to really value the kind of person you deserve to be with. Yes, you are funny, every one thinks you are funny, but people can also see how you hide behind your humor, and sometimes it gets old. Get comfortable with your true emotions. Try to change your sometimes overtly programed way of thinking. As a natural relationship sign, you are not always best at the causal, you sort of want to get involved with everyone you sleep with, and sometimes you do tend to get overly involved, even though you may not sincerely want to. You can't always help it. Sometimes you say creepy, couple-like crap in bed. Try to be more rational and less emotional. Try not to fall back into old unhealthy patterns just for the sake of having something. Don't pass up a good thing because you are too blinded by your emotions. Sometimes we need to work through things alone, and in other cases, we need the help of another person. Sometimes it is helpful to have someone to pull Cancer out of it's shell, and remind them that there is still light outside. Even in the dark vortex of a jaded Cancer shell-- there is light. A sounding board for any single Cancer would be nice -- someone they can really talk to--bounce off of. Single Cancer also needs to: shake a new tree. Shake a new tree. Stop returning to the same shitty oak dwelling.

Scorpio (October 23- November 21)

 

If You Are In a Relationship:Try to give up a bit of your control. Just breath. Not everything in life has to be going somewhere with some grand gesture. Sometimes you are just a little too quick and ahead of things, which aren't of your current or necessary worry. Stop. You are only hurting yourself here. Scorpio male usually has the opposite problem. His partner will want him to figure himself out so they can figure their future out, it's just that Scorpio doesn't always want to be bothered. Don't nag me. Don't bitch me. Just leave me alone. Scorpio will do what Scorpio wants, but sometimes, especially, in female Scorpios, they get carried down by the emotional commitments of others. They start to carry their partner's baggage and will do so for a long time. You are not a superhero Scorpio, you can't do it all, and you can't do so much for others/work that you start to forget about dealing with your self. Matter left astray will only cause more problems in the future. Don't let your emotions be this grand mystery, they are likely a lot more evident to others than you think. Work on your inability to communicate with your partner. Why are you so afraid to rock the boat? Why do you suck so bad at talking about real stuff? Don't enable--work to be stable.

If You are Single:Try not to let the devilish, wicked, cheeky side get out too much. Don't be fickle just because you are constantly witnessing others win and you want a taste of the sweetness. Your sweeter days are still yet to come.You can be a lot of fun, but when your bad your secrets will catch up with you. If you balancing emotional attachments with casual ones, except a boiling point of some kind. You are an emotional sign but also a highly sexual one and you need to course your map in a direction that doesn't hurt anyone who you care about. You are capable of biting off the head's of your lovers (in a metaphorical way) if you so desire. You are also capable of really hurting someone you care about.Think about talking to others about your life more (how you really feel) and stop the hero act of being this great avid listener who is just such a good friend and great worker. People know there are two sides to your coin. Let someone be a good friend to you for a change. Tell someone something unusual about yourself -- you know you have some stories. You know you sometimes attract weird people -- you love the non-mundane. As much as you fear trusting in others, you need mistrust to grow from and grow up towards a stronger and more assured sense of self. If you communicate properly it won't be the giant ordeal you make it out to be in your head.

Leo (July 23-August 22)

If You are in a Relationship:Make sure you aren't making too many sacrifices in order to coexists with your partner contently. Love is a lot but not always enough to make things really work. You need some give from your partner, in order to feel like you are both equally giving to each other and in tune with the needs of one another. You would rather have the control than share it with someone, but at the same time you might be the type of lion to constantly change shades in order to fit the needs of their partner's. You don't even realize all the things that you do upon the influence of your partner or how many small changes of interest you might have made to be more alike to the person you love. Realize that you should and will be loved for exactly the person you are without having to make so many personal allowances. This summer try to find a place for only you to shine, which doesn't involve the overshadow of your awesome best friend or loyal boyfriend. Do something just for the lion in you, for the king/queen of the jungle who needs to roam about in their own light simply knowing they are great. Sans drama.

If You are Single:Leo guy --- you need to put yourself out there a bit more. Just walking into a room, thinking you are the best isn't going to be enough. Say something clever. Sure the 'look at me' strong, silent act has proved to have worked out for you in the past, but if you are still single was it really all that good? It's time to know you can do it alone and let that ideology marinate. Leo girl is rarely ever without a male counterpart in her life. Addicted to the attention she isn't always capable of sifting out the strong from the weak. Leo guy needs to take more chances and invest in people he actually likes. Leo guy won't give you the time of day unless he wants to so don't take advantage of your admires. Stop hiding from your emotions. People will respect you more if you are open about your secrets and the things you feel ashamed of. Avoiding issues and refusing to talk about them will not make them go away. Ignoring person who are interested in you isn't the best way to communicate your disinterest towards them. People will not just go away. Start to pay the feelings of other people with courtesy, even if this reflects negatively upon your ego. Also refrain from stringing people along with flirtation for the sake of your ego -- this will only make people hate you. Don't be a total narcissist this summer and cover it up by saying you are the best friend and are "so there" for people -- you ultimately are a total flak. This stems from you being totally self involved. Your not always fooling as many people as you think -- the service you get in the front isn't always the same service in the back.

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