Book Recommedation

Apparently this book is a great guide for women on how to "step out" and get what they desire in their relationships to the same degree that men do. Its emphasis is on retaining class, but also being sexually liberated and empowered. There is no shame girl, no shame at all. Get in the game. 

Thanks to the lovely Leo who told me about this book ;)

The Double Standard

 

It seems like an easy enough concept to grasp. As we pine in a world of gender roles hoping to shun certain stereotypes, which have been prescribed long before now. It seems simple. Women want to and should be treated as equal to men. Feminists don't hate men they simply do not want to be treated differently from them and this doesn't involve burning bras or trying to look ugly on purpose. If women are granted this right they too should be allowed to enjoy their sexuality through the same liberty, which a man expresses his. However, I would like to pose the question, are women really possible of doing this?

 And even if women are capable, does the double standard ever truly change? Will the "slut" stigma never go away...

• When women have sex a hormone called Oxytocin is released in their bodies making them bonded to the men they've slept with after orgasm, but also making them chemically reinforced by the person they are doing it with. The more a girl sleeps with a guy the more she is bonded. *aka you start to read into the behavior of your fuck buddy because you start to feel connected inside and out and start to find signs that he is thinking the same thing.
• This bond in turn makes it hard for women to become sexually promiscuous or to assume the "player role", which certain (not all) men do easily.
• Men don't form these bonds as commonly, or ever (in some cases) and often even after getting married will say things like, "I love my wife but I want a 100 more pussies." This doesn't mean that they WILL cheat it simply means that they have the desire to cheat.

                   Even the honorable president Obama can't help but notice these goods.

Women are beautiful, curvy creatures. As a wise young man once told me, "there is something beautiful about every women"and I agree. Women LOOK GOOD and this will make it harder for you to have the undivided attention of your male partner. So instead of playing the jealous card, you too should 'have the back' of your attractive female sisters and acknowledge her beauty oppose to feeling threatened by it. As another, not-so-wise (committed) man told me, "I still like to take a look at the menu." A notion I feel Obama might agree with. Why wouldn't you look? Its human nature ladies, so keep your fangs in tact, and don't assume that every girl talking to your man is trying to steal him. Security with yourself and with the affection you have from you man is attractive- showing insecurity is not.

It is astrologically possible for women to sleep with men in the same way guys do?

• In terms of the zodiac AIR sign is the most capable for women -Geminis, Libras and Aquarius  - they have the ability to get over stuff quickly and aren't as emotional as water sign types like Pisces, Cancers and Scorpios. It is harder for water signs to achieve 'player mentality' because they feel guilty and have personal concerns about sleeping with more than one person.This isn't true of the male signs however, Pisces is huge for cheating in the male form, just as is Scorpio, but not those really sweet nice boy Scorpios you meet, just the super secretive macho- what-the-fuck-IS- he thinking types - you-know-the type.
• Since Scorpio rules the groan and is the toughest of the water signs they are likely to be capable of a sexual relationship, which doesn't involve falling head over heels. Mores they can mate in the same animalistic fashion that men do.They will use you until it fits their bill and then they will cut you - but they usually still want to remain on amicable terms if possible. Water signs while emotions have the ability to let things go in time. They are super forgiving, but Scorpio will not forget your crossing IF its cost them your trust, and once distrusted you will be discarded.
• Taurus girl likes her sex (so hormones can win over her sensible head) but she enjoys stability more and would much rather a serious relationship no matter how slow it progresses. She doesn't willingly offer up her pride to anyone, and neither does Taurus male- do not even try to bruise this ego.
• Fire signs also can live it up (leo, Sag, Aries) because they need excitement, attention and concrete validation (words are not enough). Hooking up is a necessity to their well-being. They are capable of shopping around because guilt is lower here, and the motto 'if it feels good do it even if you shouldn't' often comes into play. Leo loves to be in love, but often resorts to many love affairs when not committed.

The only moral of this story ladies is don't think that SEX on the first date will affect whether or not you and a certain person will have chemistry. If there is a connection he is going to call regardless of what base you get to. Forming a relationship on a one night stand is NOT "the exception" you've heard about in movies like He's Just Not That Into You. I know many, many people who started out from a hook up or a hook up after the first date. When it comes to the right guy- there are no rules. So throw your rule book out now. And if you want to sleep with someone, don't think about it so much. Sex doesn't always have to 'mean' something. As a girl you know you might have to analyze it in some regard, either with your girlfriends or when alone. If you find that you truly can't detach yourself from sexual pleasure - don't. You don't have to sleep with guys to get their interest, but if you do like sex, don't feel like you can't be sexually casual because you are female. Don't feel like you have to play the prude card because wanting sex says something secret about your personality. Your not a ho for having sexual needs. Think FREE. One day you will likely be settled down with one man and you will, or you might,WISH that you took the time in your twenties or thirties to live it up and hook up with people you find attractive. Just please, please, if you are polygamous or are enjoying yourself casually and randomly, remember :

ONE

You know you hate it when people talk about "the one" like its some form of self completion, but more often than not you need to think of this "one talk" as a form of self reassurance. You are however old (insert number here) take a look at the years, which have passed and notice the number of potential partners (or past relationships), which have entered your life. Then think about how those potentials did not work out. Could this likely be that there is actually ONE person, which you are destine to be with and you simply have not met them yet? Of course you will have to go through a lot of frogs before the prince, if there is only ONE person that you end up with. My slogan is, "yes, you are single, but you are single for a REASON." And no this reason does not include the notion that you suffer from Murphy's Law, are Medusa or have the worst luck in the world when it comes to men. Everyone has the worst luck until they find the right person. And yes there is always that fucking asshole who claims to never having a bad track record with the opposite sex, but let's face it, the brutality is apart of the selection process. Nothing is wrong with you, some people simply find their partners later in life. I hate to say it though, for others, they might find a partner too quickly, settling for something 'good' when they could have something 'great'. Not every couple you know together right now is going to make it because sometimes we learn better in 'a thing' oppose to being outside 'of a thing'. Certain signs opt for solidarity while others crave security. You could probably force a relationship right now if you wanted, but it wouldn't be right and this is why your waiting, right? You're just not that desperate and that's a good thing.

But listen girl (and any boys if you have some to add to my list I would love to hear) here is a list of situations, which thematically will likely cross your path during the dating game. It doesn't mean your crazy or destine to die alone. You'd be surprised by how many other women/men have experienced similar shit experiences.

1) You meet a guy at a club - he feeds you sweet nothings- you go home with him - you try to date him - he pretends he cares then tells you he still has feelings for his EX/is getting back with her - done.

2) You meet a guy and right off the bat he tells you he is emotionally unavailable, never had a serious relationship and keeps a distance between himself and everyone else. He also tells you how good looking he is and how often he gets cruised - RUN.

3) You meet a guy who like to meet/greet every girl more than once at least once a day - even though he has a GF he tries to make you feel special and is constantly flirting/watching you. Remember, if anything does happen with you two, he's going to do the same thing to you, can you handle it?

4) He just started sleeping with you and already he is punching out your harmless ginger friend who he sees you talking with at the bar - RUN.

5) You go over to his house and you find other girl's earrings, barrettes, and possibly a used condom wrapper or a long unfamiliar hair, and yet he doesn't seem to show any shame. This is the 'using honesty as my get out jail free' guy. His I don't give a fuck 'tude basically says. 'take it or leave it'. SO....take it or leave it.

6) You sleep with a guy and he gets all religious and Christian on your ass during and after. Telling you he's worried you made a baby, and sleeping together on the first night is bad. He feels guilty - he has sinned -he can't see you again - you shouldn't see him either.

7) You invite a guy to the bar (after a few night of previous passion) and when you come out from the bathroom you see him making out with your friend. Get a new guy and maybe some new friends while your at it?

8) You meet a guy who always texts you back, maybe even on the weekends, but never directly asks you out or shows true interest through a sexy compliment. Don't waste your time, this guy is just craving attention and likes the validation, plus he's lonely and will use you for his own comfort of knowing girls are texting him...you don't have to be one of them.  Trust me, he literally gets excited that he's getting texts, it makes him feel like the man, but this guy is a serious pansy type.


9) You make a date with a guy or what you THINK is a date. This is the guy who invites you over to his house but doesn't ask you out, and when you show up the guy is wearing a wife beater and underwear and wants to watch the princess bride with you and his roommates, but before he movie can end, two chicks from Lavalife.com show up just to say "hi." If this has happen to you, you are allowed a couple of emo days to feel like you have shitty luck with men because this scenario is actually shitty, and kind of hilarious too.

10) You meet a guy/girl who is really quiet and annoyingly introverted during the day, but when drunk expresses feeling and is a lot of fun. You find yourself drinking on a Monday, or wanting to spike their drink while their in the washroom - this is a doomed situation.


11) He/she goes home with another person the next time you see them - which is likely directly after you've just slept with him - move on. They are giving you a direct hint.

12)He/she courts you, sweeps you off your feet, and makes you feel like a million bucks. Then they drop the bomb on you that they are dating someone else and offer you their t-shirt to sleep in or their bobby pin to put up your hair - probably not the most sensitive of creatures - you won't be able to handle the mistress role for long.

As you can see, there are many, many different types of red flags, which you can chose to avoid, but I say enjoy these experiences. One day you will be old and boring, you might as well endure a little crap to give your life some interest - while you still can. These encounters don't make you unlucky they actually make you more likely to meet the right person one day. The more people you meet/write off the better because you will be thaaaat much closer to eliminating all the wrong people, and in turn, will know what you want/won't put up with a lot better.  So if you have a top 12 list of shitty situations where it didn't work out - don't be sad - be happy - because it shows you that people ARE attracted to you even if they happen to be emotionally unavailable. Eventually a person who IS on your emotional frequency will show interest in you. It's only a matter of time...so don't think too much ...plan some personal goals...and then let the attractions happen naturally. If you find you only discover more 'what not to date' dudes and ladies - don't worry - someone good is gonna pop up, but likely when your randomly doing you, not thinking about it, possibly even wearing your casual 'not trying to look hot' outfit. Keep sifting. October brings out the crazy, but it also brings out the costumes, this is a GREAT month to meet people for casual encounters and dating. People are feeling spicy but also cold...they'll need someone to warm up to.

I will be updating "the list" so if anyone has horror stories I would love to hear them!!! There are a million more, and while many might shed the theme that a guy will say anything to get you into bed, even if there is someone one else or he's not really available because his ex-finance beat him up and that's why she's his ex fiance - don't take it personally, and don't think OMG I'm such a slut, I'm not going to sleep with any more dudes - because you're not. It doesn't matter. With the right person there are no rules. Withholding sex isn't going to trap you a man. If your not right, your not right, fucking on the first date won't change that - just like it will NOT decrease the chances that he is.

Cleaning Out the Emo Closet

Have you noticed the trend that it's not cool to be emotional? I always find this funny because people often forget that most if not ALL of their feelings constitute as emotional. Everyone is emotional. Just because you aren't "sad" it doesn't necessarily mean you aren't emotional. Happiness, is an emotion. Based on this notion I have concluded that we all obtain a secret emotional closet that maybe we visit hung over on Sundays, trying to figure out what to keep and what to throw away. You might find its more so just 'mental pondering' and you might not be ready to throw anything away. Or have the strength to physically change anything.
Likely you have found there are those pants, you know the ones, the pair you just can't seem to part with. Even if you know they don't fit you anymore (at least not the way they used to) your still not quite ready to throw them out. Just as for some, your not quite ready to buy a new pair. While for others they have impulsively bought so many pairs, only to find that none flatter quite right. Keep buying clothes, but make wise purchases. With the fall change, you have to spend some time in your emotional closet - even if you find it sappy - the beauty of a closet is that only you have to be trapped there. It's your personal prism.

Likely there is something you can find, which is collecting dust. In which case it might be useful to get rid of it...seriously?? How much abuse can you take? *sneeze* Don't be a masochist this season. Really try to be good for yourself, because the moment you decide to dress yourself up in love, self love, your love, of looking good, feeling good and wearing exactly what you desire to - you will find a sense of excitement.You will feel the attention - naturally. More leaves to fall for those that follow this attitude. Anything can happen, but you have to clean out your closet so you can be open to these anythings. Before you know it, your disposition will be completely changed...and what you once felt sadness or distress over- will simply feel like a foreign memory...a "i can't believe i wore that moment" if you will, but obviously so much more emo ;)

Aquarius - You're still surrounding yourself with the 'sweet and temporary' because as much as you want something built to last, your in the least likely place right now for that to occur. You need to be OK first, without any distraction. Keep with the adventure, but stay true to self desire,you might find something worth discovering (like a new philosophy)...lately your a teeter totter though...find your ride.

Pisces - Don't let your feisty nature get the best of you. Keep it cool. Get stuff done. You put everything off to the last minute because you secretly work better under pressure, but you know that just stresses you out more and then you turn to addictions and vices. Tisk. Tisk. PS - Even The Dream think you're feisty : http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=eQzY5q6vePo*. Stop procrastinating!

Sag - You are so much more emotional than you try to let on. Stop needing so much attention, secretly and for those who aren't demanding enough attention - it is your time to shine, so turn it on...soon please. Swimming in similar pattern never did a Sag well. Get your bow and arrow and find something worthwhile to hunt!

Aries - A lot of you are in a good place, but you find yourself never satisfied even when you should. You always have something to hang your hip on. Ease up on the self regimen and enjoy what you got - stop trying to control everything - you will never win this way. Sometimes you're just wrong - deal with it and learn to apologize with sincere emotions not a ram head. First remove your thorns then make your next move.

Cancer - You are working through cobs webs to find a person you can value truthfully. You want to enjoy life and want to be around people who get this notion. You don't want to be judged because regardless of the jokes and silly shit that come out of your mouth, you really do want everyone to be happy and enjoying life, that's what life was made for right? Good attitude - but i still think you need to dig a bit deeper for something that can't be found readily on the surface.

Taurus - Ease up on that grip. Sometimes life happens, it doesn't always go according to plan. Your tough. You know you can get through anything. You know your level head has seen you through so much and will see you through more. Think with your level head and not your stubborn bull head and you should be good to go. You know Taurus time is a lot slower than the normal clock, so be patient, everything is going to be fine like good dinner and wine, just the way you like it.

Scorpio - There is always something bottled beneath the currents of a Scorpion sea. So secretive. An attitude adjustment needs to be implement for true change to occur. Pretending you don't care, doesn't mean you don't care. Nor does avoiding what you claim not to care about. You are the toughest of the wimpy water signs, you take anything by the reigns, but sometimes you have to work inside out INSTEAD of outside in.

Leo - I feel its a toss up for Leos. some of you are quite conflicted with personal distress or turmoil. While others are busy working hard and making strong love connections in daily endeavors and home life. Leo craves the hearty comforts so attach yourself to whatever feels good. You have a tendency to get emotional in the midst of bad weather so don't let it completely over take your golden, Leo badge. You still gotta shine even if you got a lot on your mind, your people are waiting.

Libra - What is there to say? Your still keeping it cool. Dressing fresh. Loving life - despite whatever turns and turmoils you've over turned. you move on well and with a steady pace. You have a great outlook on things, which is why you can move forward easily - but you know you tend to avoid the reality of what you want. The moment is great - but where is the moment going? For some of you its time to put away your peter pan flying shoes and figure out what the future truly holds. What do you want? The indecision of a Libra complicate things....often.

Gemini - Some of you are doing awesome - working hard - living life - loving being in love. Others are a total train-wreck. Socializing will not cure your depression. Nor will suppression of emotion or throwing caution to the wind. You can be really, really good when you want to be - but your inconsistent these days. Really good then really bad - and really bitchy - think before you shoot!

Capricorn - Snore! I'm sensing a lull of regulatory that is even starting to drive you batty. It's time for a change, a new flight to success, you are bored and you know it. There is more to life than working hard so get back to the ways of excitement - you deserve it - and no it doesn't make you bad person.

Virgo - Your analytical nature doesn't always ring true to your intentions. You want to dominate and will belittle anyone who tries to step to that. You have to learn temperament and a kind demeanor. You know you want to be good, so why fight your good spirit so often? Why are you so addicted to the abuse and the darkness? You think other people are cry babies, but your bitchy attitude (on a bad day) at times is way more "girly" and emotional than most menstruating women.

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=GUDcoqZNnOo The rap by NAS at the end is ALL about star signs. I do enjoy.

Also checkout Astrology Zone - really great blog - with very accurate horoscopes and love connections.

Fall in/Fall out

 

With the seasons changing, the fall leaves bring about a lot of personal change, mixed feelings and new agendas. There might be skeletons looming, or unfinished business of the past, which will hopefully find a conclusion this September. Summer is usually a time for the 'players to play', but now that the seasons are changing and school is back in session, it is going to be a lot harder to go out and play the field. Or at least to a successful degree. September is the time of new beginnings and a lot of things either start to blossom or fade during this fall season. Fall in or Fall out. people like to hibernate during these months, especially during winter, so relationships often form during fall/winter. I call these months, 'the hook up months' because everyone gets all sappy around the holidays, and everyone gets lonely and bored during the recession of having to go back to the grind (post summer). A lot of new things are possible...especially personal goals, dreams, and aspirations.

Leo - Don't get tooo self involved this semester, you know you can cocoon yourself into self activity,which feels good. Often forgetting what you are ignoring that still does require some attention. Keep being the vivacious person you are, people are really into your energy right now, as they usually are and the modest confidence will get you far this month. So keep with the modest approach. As much as boastful lion thinks they are loved, there is always someone snickering at the shine, why give the Neanderthals fuel for their fire? Keep working hard as always. Everyone notes your ability to give your everything all.the.time.

Cancer - You know you might need a little time for rest and recovery and self discovery. You are emotionally distant lately and you need to work through this to see where you can evolve and grow from this. Find some things that you really cared about before are losing their appeal. Consider drastic change: work? travel? residency? Something is not quenched, you're itching for something - and you know it. Also, stop hiding behind your humor, how the fuck do you really feel? Explore your true emotions. Everyone loves funny but you conceal yourself in funny, it's time your heart came out of hiding!

Aquarius - You are really trying not to fall into old patterns. Sometimes you just give things chances without really seeing if your heart is in, but the caution is up now, you have the guard on and it should be there. You've been too good lately to put up with bullshit, so make good choices and don't return back to old flames or things that just 'felt comfortable'. You know its not going to work long term and let's face it, some of you players are finally ready to make something stick, for good. If you have to think about how its not good - then its not good - don't entertain possibility if its not full proof.

Aries I would say OPEN UP, but let's face it, that's not going to happen. You can't truly change the controlling nature of the Ram. They are a land animal destine to roam and find conquest for self gain. Your need to self protect will cause problems, which you will fight to avoid. Any sign of emotions and the Ram has its guard up. They are born with a shield, which covets their true feelings, feelings which are often on untapped. Work on EMPATHY and becoming capable of having a two way conversation. You have twice as many ears as you do as mouth, so you are meant to listen twice as much - and try to put yourself in the position of others. It will benefit you greatly.

Pisces - Keep trucking (err swimming)! You know your unique personality and persona/ability to empathize easily with others provokes a lot of adventures and new meetings. My advice to you is get out, move those fish feet and flex that flirty, feminine charm that drive men crazy, you know you can meet a lot of people, but its key to give someone good a chance. You have an addictive personality and are drawn to corrupt people because you piety them and want to fix them. If its broken - you can't fix it, so forget it and swim on. Stop swimming back.

Gemini - Sometimes you just really need to chill out and take a breath. You do too much. You think too much. You worry too much and yet you let too much go at the same time. You need to really take this time to focus on what is important and what you need to do for yourself that will be prosperous. New beginnings and exciting things are always in a Gem's life, but you can't fill up every minute without some retrospective self and quiet time. Some of you need to get out of town- eat.love.pray.please.

Taurus - You could also use a little spice. You do fun and exciting things but you are a creature of habit. Yes, you like it that way, its classy and it suites you, but you need to give yourself a culture shock. Break from your comfort zones, go to SEA or camping, do something a Taurus would never do. You like what you like but your stubborn ways are ready for a shift.Your love is always steady and strong because you create those solid earthy connections easily, but you crave stability, commitment and certainly in your relationships and when someone makes you question this it is quite upsetting to you. 

Libra - You are trying to make more concise decisions but your failing at it. You often don't say what's on your mind but might make a facial expression which says it all, you need to start speaking up. You are attracted to a lot of different things, but you should decide which of these things are truly important because it is going to matter at some point or reach a boiling climax. Also, be caution of  how you inquire, sometimes you think your helping but your nosy nose doesn't have a place in all affairs. Pick your battles and watch your facial expressions. Just because you don't SAY something doesn't mean you don't leave an impression.

Scorpio - Will keep this short and sweet to honor your sasync, cryptic ways. No one is a mind reader, so start speaking up. Your communication skills suck. No body is inside your head so nobody knows what your thinking. A man/woman can only fix what you tell them. You building stuff in your head is only prolonging the personal happiness, which you do deserve. Your a good person, but sometimes its OK to let others know about it. To those sexy, hard working, hustling, Independent Scorpio ladies, go on you - you give women a good name.

Virgo - You are not superior to anyone and you wouldn't likely admit you think this about yourself but you do. You are the judge Judy of the crew and sometimes it gets tiring. You really need to think about what you want, and try to stick to your decisions. You think you're so practical and unemotional but really your impulsive outbursts and bitchy rant/raves are vocations of constant, constant emotions. You are the only female sign in the zodiac - you are the bitch - but you can be a beautiful one - so try to be happier, nicer, friendlier - people are dying for this from you so why not make others feel good? Oh, that's right i forgot you are totally selfish...:) 

Sag - You are very capable of living a life of balance. You have a great sense of what's truly important and you are very good to yourself these days as you should be. Stop worrying about 'what could be wrong with you' - you're fine. Don't nit pitch. Give something or someone a chance, even if your scared of the emotional aspects of love, there is something waiting in the wings...but you must go on the hunt first. Start planning your next adventure - you know this is where you are most happy - having fun!

Capricorn - Everyone knows your a hard worker but you need to stop putting others down in order to make yourself feel more superior, especially in the work place. Your dominate characteristics can be overbearing in a relationship. You crave stability and are proven to be loyal but at times you need to think more about the feelings of others. You look a situations directly on how they affect you, but there is always another party involved. Think before you react, or overreact. 

September is a celebration of the Virgo, Happy Birthday! These boys and girls are usually of a very critical natural, but make excellent friends and provide impeccable advice, which is usually to the point and very grounded in nature. A practical sign, they are very capable of seeing the truth in situations, but also capable of seeing the flaws. Once this sign commits you can expect an abundance of loyalty and security. Virgo will always make you feel protected. If they compliment you it is genuine because they rarely do it.

Do You Really Want a Prince?

There is something to be said about the Disney princes. If you hadn't noticed they are total background music to the forefront of the Disney Princesses. Disney has capitalized massively on their precious princesses (who even I find endearing), but in truth, we never really learn who prince charming is. Does Prince Charming even have a real personality, which we can judge critically?He is a fictional myth, an image, an attractively drawn cartoon, a face, a fantasy we carry in our minds as paramount, but is it reality?
How great were the Disney princes?

 Consider prince Eric. Even though it was Ariel's voice, which sparked his attraction in the first place. He clearly is still guided by his penis, pursuing silent Ariel solely on her looks. Then he decided to marry plotting Ursula solely because she sounds like the "the voice." Isn't this all a little superficial? Why the rush? We are led to believe that Eric is a wonderful guy, but isn't he just a little bit vain and impulsive? Most men wouldn't be strung out because some chic just "sounded so amazing." Did he realize that she was actually a mermaid? Wouldn't he normally be a bit shell shocked and apprehensive about this? Oh yeah, it's Disney.

The Beast is obviously no better, turned ugly because of his naturally shallow, snobby, spoiled ways. Despite his sudden transformation he's a control freak and likely a women beater. Likely an alcoholic. Likely a Taurus like our dear EX-friend Chris Brown. You can sense that his ugly side is likely to return. He's no prince.

And neither is good looking Aladdin. He's a man of the sword. He's obviously a cheater/player type. Come on, you can see it. Aladdin and his dagger are one.Despite how he is illustrated, he rides a magic carpet for a living, does Jasmine really think he only has rug for her? Doubtful.

The most realistic of the Disney dudes is the wily Peter Pan. He is also a man of the sword (meaning he wants to fly from adventure to adventure and is drawn towards whatever his penis ignites), but is open about this. He isn't ready to grow up. In the revision "Hook", Roo-fiii-oooo retorts, "all grown ups are pirates." When Peter kisses Wendy's granddaughter and doesn't return to Neverland he sold out. Falling in love is not a part of the Peter Pan game. Every girl has dated a "Peter."
Every girl can think of a guy who was so attractive and intriguing in his own right, that every moment she spent with him felt like a fairytale. Like some kind of pixie dust magic. Until he was literally flying out her window or she flying out of his. It likely doesn't amount. Yes, in the updated version young Peter does settle for love -  a happy thought, which can make him fly through life (metaphorically if you will) - but it took him a long time to do this. Plus, there are still so many "lost boys" which Peter leaves behind, signifying that their will always be "lost boys."
A Wendy type is prone to mother, prone to be patience and prone to suffer disaster. She feels its her duty to guide the misguided and in turn she only sacrifices her own happiness. If you think about it, all the Disney Princesses are confined to the limitation of their male counterparts. Their own social status and career is meek, and they find a sense of identity, livelihood and royalty by being swooped off their feet by princes whom we have never truly seen engage with their love interests. Yes, Aladdin/Jasmine, Ariel/Eric etc. have built towards their climactic relationship, but even still the pursuit foreshadows the notion that this is not something you want. This is truly a fairy tale. Not to say that your own version of what a 'prince charming' entails doesn't exist, but I DO have to say that no young child should be hell bent on the caliber of "prince" addressed by Disney. What do the couples truly have in common besides the trivial notion that they esthetically look good together?

Peter Pan clearly had attractions with both Tinkerbell and Wendy, but I doubt this notion translates to a toddler. I think its important to know what were dealing with before we waste our time dwelling over potential flight risks. The Peter Pan is a good time, a youthful leisure (likely a Libra or Aquarius), and if you enjoy him for what he is you can have a lot of fun, but don't expect your going to be the girl he leaves Never Neverland for...he may decide never to leave. Never.

In tradition of my own passion, I would like to mention that a lot of men, especially rappers, make tribute to the essence of Peter Pan. He has become a legend. Lil' Wayne is often rhyming hooks like, "Peter Pan fly till I day", Rick Ross will drops lines like "like Peter Pan I'm gonna fly." The idea of being fly means you never have to stay in one place too long, not long even to invest emotions or get hurt. It also means enjoying life without the drama of emotions and consequence, which adults face. So if your ready to get on the flight of extreme turbulence and potential passion, go for it, but assure yourself that a parachute might be in order.

Opposites Attract

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=xweiQukBM_k&feature=av2e This Paula Abdul video was a childhood favorite, and sadly the cliche is often (but not always) quite true. Or at least according to the stars signs. People who are inherently different by nature are drawn to each other naturally because they crave to be challenged as humans. I often hear men say, "I'm attracted to what I am not." This notions often comes into play physically, but also mentally. For example, a highly introverted male might be attracted to a more personable, talkative, vivacious female because she provides stimulation, which he cannot. There is also a very strong chemical, physical chemistry between opposites, especially in the sack. He might consider himself the selfish, bad boy type and finds himself attracted to extremely feminine, girl-next-door, good girl types. The dominant are attracted to the submissive. Big Gorillas attracted to petite spinner types. Sometimes weak communicators are attracted to strong ones, and attentiion seeking nymphos settle with quite arm candy (who are also awesome listeners). Its all about balancing two elements so they can function properly support and together.

Sag/Gemini : First there is the BrAngie Pitt relationship, which is a combination of two polar opposites Sag (fire) and Gemini (air). He's a bit goofy, worldly, charming, up for adventure and on the hunt for both experience and excitement. She too is constantly changing (dual-natured Gemini) and trying to fill a void of never quite feeling good enough. She is still looking for something to complete her, she might preach humble talk, but she is never satisfied. She does have a vain side, it would be shocking for her not to, every Gem is prone to detail and highly visual (and usually material) by nature. Mentally they likely both have anal tenancies. They will face trouble with control because if she is a true Gemini a part of her will always want to take the lead. He struggles to be MAN. He is pathetically devoted and doesn't mind taking a back seat to her demands, though very stubborn in his own right, he might express frustration, but he doesn't wear the pants. I think that might be pretty obvious. 20 kids later and these two could still be together, the attraction between them is very strong and while different have many things in common. They fight though,but I think Brad was looking for a women to "talk back" to him a bit. Jen, sensitive by nature, and a lot more emotional would like comply too much.


Virgo/Pisces: This is intense. They are so different its sort of scary. He is likely the introverted, serious, critical type. She the light to his dark, super feminine and girly with a chatty spirit and a zest for fun. The sex will be epic, but she will always be too sensitive for him. She will always look for an emotional connection in bed, which he won't always provide. He wants her, but he doesn't want her to get too mushy, he will scare easily. He will likely make her feel insignificant and never god enough. Pisces needs her validation more than anything and Virgo is one of the last signs to put glitter glue on top of anything. They are much more likely to be the bully, to criticize, hate and talk lowly of people. This could stem from their own insecurity of thinking that he is the one and only, the very best man. Their male ego is very present because they secretly love the attention of you being devoted to him. They might have a weird complex about 'other men'. If they give you a compliment its sincere, but emotionally they don't operate on the same frequency as sensitive Pisces. This contrast will always lead to clashing. Pisces will always be seeking something, which Virgo can't provide. If he trusts her however, and lets his guard down to her, it can work. IF Virgo is willing to let down his wall and let Pisces in, these two could be happy, though Pisces needs to work on 'not giving a fuck' what Virgo says and does because he's a loner type, and they always need space and time to figure out their constantly changing mind sets. Nothing is often perfect in the eyes of the virgin boy (Virgo). In the case below Nicole is the Virgo and Joe is the Pisces.

Taurus/Scorpio: This is also intense. I feel you are starting to understand the polarity interactions are often of a very intense nature, which don't necessarily have true expiration dates. Taurus is the earth mother of the zodiac, they want control, and they want trust and passion. They want the best - food, wine, drink, sex. They want love in all its conventions, all its prosper and practicality. While Scorpio is often very into himself by nature and not always able to bicker to the same degree as Taurus (who is often very temperamental until set off). Scorpio relishes in solo time and solitude and can't always satisfy the sometimes demanding needs of the Taurus. Hospitable signs like Gemini and Pisces are better suited to give Taurus everything they desire, and more.  Taurus and Scorpio go in waves, meaning they do have strong moments of greatness, but they have their plateaus, and cycles of fighting. By nature these two will clash on many levels. The sexual connection is crazy because it involves the two nymphos of the zodiac coming together in bed and this can be hours on the bed.... Control is also a factor of argument because Taurus, while understanding (and always working on it) does like to have things her way, and Scorpio can often be so set in his ways/patterns that he doesn't comply to the needs of his partner. Scorpio and Taurus, however, are very loyal signs, and are capable of working together as a team to make compromises and in turn, make their love work. It was certainly a lot of work for these two:

Leo/Aquarius : These two actually can have a lot in common because both are powerful signs with a lot of potential for positive energy. Leo is the center, but Aquarius is fleeting and never quite in the same place. Leo and Aquarius can both exercise meanness, if they don't like you, they don't like you, but Leo is more likely to lie to your face and smile with killer kindness because they are so narcissistic they can't handle anyone hating them. They need to feel great and important by nature. They expect you to come to them because the Lion sees him/herself as royalty. A lot of pride. Aquarius is more likely to look you up and down and walk away. They don't care. They don't need to waste their time on negative people who provide them with nothing in life. Leo has a lot of passion, and loves to be in love, which is great, but Aquarius is often swayed into other flirtations and endeavors because the cubicle of being in a total monogamous relationship can feel like a choking neck tie to them. Leo and Aquarius are both intelligent signs, so if she possess an ability to mentally engage Mr. Aquarius, this could be a very meaningful match with a lot of heat.


Cancer/Capricorn: Cancer is willing to give Capricorn the sense of protection and security, which Capricorn craves. However, Capricorn can often be "too dull" for Cancer, who might crave humor and stimulation more than Capricorn. Capricorn likes order, structure and stability. Cancer longs for security as well, but doesn't want to sacrifice doing, living and being apart of real life. Cancer does not want her relationship to be her entire identity, so if Capricorn smothers, and prevents Cancer from retaining a sense of self pleasure they could run into problems. They both do both have the ability to build a strong sense of home, comfort and loyalty. As long as they are capable of satisfying each others mental and physical needs this could work out, but it also could not like in the Case of Capricorn Kid Rock and Cancer Pamela Anderson.

Aries/Libra : Aries pretty much always know what she wants. She is the boss. She doesn't like to wait. She expects to be front of the line. As the first sign in the zodiac it is nature for Aries to think about themselves before anyone else. Libra is much more shifting in his reasoning, he weights the scales before making any type of decision. Committing to a decision is like contemplating abortion for a Libra - they just never really know what they want. Aries will try to make up Libra's mind, foolishly of course, because no one is capable of doing this for Libra. Aries needs to learn the gift of empathy, and work with her partner to communicate together. Aries will have to step back from the control role and try to be the sympathizer, lover and care taker. Libra will be very affectionate and adoring to Aries, which the Ram loves, but in order for it to truly work, Aries will have to reach a hand out to Libra first. Boni and Clyde were a Aries/Libra match.

ALSO any one who is in your OWN star sign could be your polarity. Similar personalities tend to clash by nature because there is a lack of balance between the elements. Too much of the same things is never good and can be a catalyst for chaos. For example, two Taurus women might be too stubborn and bump heads with one another. Two Leos might fight for the lime light, Two Pisces might be too sensitive for each other and hurt each others feelings indirectly. This being said, people also looooove their own star signs. If you have friends born in the same month as you, there is a reason. Birds of the same feather do flock together, similar interests and common ground are often favored in trade of the struggle to get along with your opposite. Regardless, we all need both relation and opposition in order to sustain a good livelihood or a healthy relationship.